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    trouble with recognizing people

    This issue with your work supervisor happens to me all of the time. It is excruciatingly embarrassing, and makes me look like I don't care or I don't like the person. It is impossible to explain, because it doesn't make sense to NTs.
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    embarrassing stim?

    exactly. It is very difficult to stop even now, but I have much more self control!!! My families name for it was "wiggling". Kinda accurate! It definitely helps me be more relaxed, although it is quite annoying. I'd rather have a more "conventional" sim, if that is what it is.
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    embarrassing stim?

    I started doing it way before puberty, definitely as a young child. I can get behind the idea that we aren't typical in our sexuality, either. Thank you for understanding!
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    embarrassing stim?

    I am new to exploring my Aspie side. I have a behavior that I am just now recognizing as a "stim". Under stress, I have a strong need to masturbate. I either have to masturbate right then or struggle through the arousal and the stress at the same time. As a child, I was quite an...
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    trouble with recognizing people

    I totally relate! I get embarrassed over and over and over. I few years ago I decided to basically never use names to call to someone or refer to someone unless I was absolutely sure. Even then, under stress, I will misidentify. I do not recognize that I have misidentified until the person...
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    how do I get enough alone time while being married

    I really, really like the idea of being a good leader. I'm a leader at work, and I totally agree with your analysis. You are a success if your team/family is a success. You are helping lead me! It feels great, so thank you.
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    how do I get enough alone time while being married

    yup! Timing is important, and it's hard to get it right. I'm reading a relationship book for NDs that suggests having a scheduled/predicable meeting to talk about problems/roadbumps. That would be great, but he doesn't like talking about things like this. It's just more "demands" from me...
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    how do I get enough alone time while being married

    Thank you ra49! I love your suggestions. I personally would like the color calendar, and I'm not sure how it would go over with him. It makes me anxious to just think about it. I have been "sneaking" alone time when he is gone, and it is keeping me sane. Unfortunately, I'm on guard for...
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    how do I get enough alone time while being married

    That makes sense. If he thinks I'm doing something for him or for the family, it would make more sense. I'm sure, for example, that he wouldn't object to me needing time to do something for work. The only way I could link it into him or the family might be to say it's like meditation, and...
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    Did you ever have problems with relationships..

    That age expectation is soooo bogus! There is love at all of the ages!! EAch decade, everyone, until you are dead.
  11. U

    how do I get enough alone time while being married

    THank you for taking time from work to answer my post!! He has taken on the role of the children!! Very observant!! I would love, love ,love to give him what he wants in a relationship! He has no hobbies. He does go to the gym, but doesn't need privacy. I also go to the gym and if he...
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    Did you ever have problems with relationships..

    What "things" didn't you understand? Now that you know, what do you do differently?
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    how do I get enough alone time while being married

    Thank you! I do understand "weaponized incompetence." It allows people who are very competent and teachable at work to turn into "incompetent " partners at home. My situation is more about my spouses' refusal to tolerate me scheduling alone time for me. Why? Because he doesn't see the...
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    how do I get enough alone time while being married

    This is excellent. My father and my son both have autistic symptoms, although no one has a formal diagnosis. This is why I'm exploring myself. I get along quite well with my son because he communicates so cleanly without hidden meanings. It has helped me to communicate more clearly, because...
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    trouble with recognizing people

    totally! One time I was in the grocery store and this woman excitedly came over to me and addressed me by my professional title, thus making her someone from work. I didn't recognize her at all, and I just pretended. She was so happy to see me, asked all about how I was doing (I retired...
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