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Recent content by Tobs

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    Is this really life with us?

    Seems pretty onesided. Most likely the frustrated writings of a lover scorned. They should have stepped out of the relationship prior to building up such bitterness.
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    Do you believe in Valentine's Day?

    Nope. I used to do little things throughout the year. Now I don't have a "valentine".
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    Have you tried oil on it yet ?

    I was gonna say that. A cross road would allow for the option to keep going the way they are and resulting in no change. Analogies must fit!
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    Don Burke uses Aspergers as excuse for claims against him

    Sounds like a pathological liar to me. You shouldn't get so angry about people gaming the system though. No matter what the system is like, there will be people who try to take advantage of it. Our entire frontal cortex developed on the concepts of risks and rewards. Everyone makes their own...
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    Should I re add?

    In my online experience, genuine people tend to be more cautious, like yourself. Someone being nice on the surface doesn't mean they have your best interests at heart. And online, it's very easy to be nice.
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    Living apart as a couple?

    That sounds like a very practical system. I will keep it in mind the next time I make an attempt at co-habitation.
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    Online Dating entirely useless for most men?

    "Dog with a bone."
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    Do you think I have Asperger's Syndrome?

    I just looked over that Aspie Quiz. I don't like that type of test. It's only about datapoints and scalars and fails to grasp the nature of the individual. I answer "I don't know" for every question that says "Do others think..." or "does x happen more for you or for others?". Because I don't...
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    Don Burke uses Aspergers as excuse for claims against him

    Doesn't really bother me. There is no logical excuse for predatory behaviour. Claiming that he engages in such behaviour because he has autism is a cop out. Stopping yourself from engaging in coersive/forceful behaviour depends on two things: The ability to detect whether or not the other party...
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    Challenges in ASD/NT relationships from Aspie POV

    "He says "interesting I have a partner that is selfish and only cares about themself"." This is emotional manipulation. If he thinks you don't care, why is he with you? He is trying to make you feel bad to get his way.
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    Guys, don't get attached to women you meet online.

    I am merely going to correct an assumption as to not be misunderstood by others. I do not wish to antagonize my discussion partner. I merely wished to point out that his personal experience, however extensive, is statistically irrelevant both for quantity and methodologically. They all have one...
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    Something You Always Carry With You

    My keys. Never leave home without 'em.
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    How long do your special interests last?

    Obsessive focus is pretty innate to me. In high school it used to result in me having a hard time with the variety of each day. I found every bit of new information interesting and found it difficult to drop anything. So if I had history as my first class of the day, I'd often still be reading...
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    Guys, don't get attached to women you meet online.

    I find this a gross generalization based on anecdotal evidence. My gf of 6 years broke up with me recently. Does that mean I should regard the entire experience as a failure? If that is true, my "succes" rate in real life and online are the same: 0%. It might be easier to draw a big x and...
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    Have you tried oil on it yet ?

    Yepyep. I have to be conscious about what I say in those situations too. The first thing my mind goes to is how to solve the solvable, prevent the preventable and accept the unavoidable. And then I take a deep breath and say something like "Oh that must have been rough." or "Oof, those days."...
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