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Recent content by The Pandector

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    Significant Facts

    Same here. Reading tech manuals, I learned to be inquisitive about what I understood best, then building outwards from there. Reading is best for me, as I might read the same sentence or paragraph over and over, the rest of my mind picking up and strengthening connections. Don’t care if it...
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    Significant Facts

    Absolutely! I too loved Sherlock Holmes, and early on ascribed to his Attic Theory of memory. Einstein stated the same principle in saying he never memorized anything he could look up. I believe this was ripped off by innkeeper Butterbur in Bree, who moaned how one thing pushes out another...
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    Missing The Sixties

    Kansas City Star really takes me back to huge grocery store parking lots where you could ride clunky mechanical rides and maybe see your favorite local kiddie show hero. I twice saw the Oscar Meyer Weinermobile, touched it, once saw Sheriff John. But it was at Knott’s Berry Farm that I stood...
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    Missing The Sixties

    Yeah, I was there. A distinctly non social guy, music was my touchstone. Great memories in some of the above links. To me, that period was about the Sexual Revolution. Some girls were clearly not wearing bras, and rumors turned out true that many were taking contraceptive drugs so that they...
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    Burnout and breakup

    I don’t fit your profile, but maybe this is helpful. Not a player, I only had two breakups. With each, I knew I had to go, and left. One pleaded for a while, but my mind was made up. Never looked back. But I have to admit, I tend to drop people without qualm, which I believe is autism related.
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    Burnout and breakup

    Patience may be the easiest thing to advise and the toughest to pull off. Sounds like your best bet for the time being.
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    Is there such a thing as "Intellectual stimming"?

    Never thought of it as stimming before, but I’ll be thinking of this.
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    Is there such a thing as "Intellectual stimming"?

    I’ll take a chance responding here. As I have mentioned, for me humor was the practical solution to people thinking the real me was cranky or mean. Decades later, it is a learned/conditioned response. Even on this autism forum, I have frequently been slashed for using humor, been notified...
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    How celibate woman became a threat.....

    If I thought there was any chance of success, I might try a dating app that didn’t expect sexual involvement. It would be nice to have some female companionship. If something more developed, that might be okay. But I don’t see myself even showing up anywhere where you have to explicitly...
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    What do you drink when you play video games?

    If I’m playing before noon, I have my big cup of tea. After that, it’s water from my British Berkefeld.
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    'Autism isn't an excuse'

    The right to exist is the fundamental principle, though even that can be abrogated rightfully. As a Christian, I have no doubt that every person has purpose and therefore value. Maybe we should separate that issue from a cohort’s value to society. Though undiagnosed, I was the hardware guru...
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    'Autism isn't an excuse'

    I’ll let @Neonatal RRT answer for himself, but have been working on this exact issue for awhile. Relationships are something like animal mating rituals. There’s no real requirement that the dance be performed just so, except that that’s the way the dance is performed. A misstep turns the...
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    Do Any Of You Not Like It When People Say "I Promise"?

    My grandmother was good to her word. If she said we’d do something, she would often later say she had promised. She never said she promised, didn’t have to; her word was her bond. I try to be that way, wish everyone did.
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    What? I am on the speaker phone, oh boy.....

    I always use speakerphone at home because it works better for my ears, never mention it to others because there’s never anyone else here. Don’t use speakerphone in public because I don’t like when others do it. In fact, I’m not terribly impressed with people carrying on public phonecons when...
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    Developmental pathways for autism spectrum disorder

    Some of us say we would not accept a cure for their autism. This questions whether we would employ interventions for our offspring. Sounds plausible. Frankly, I am a little nervous about anything coming out of UCSD. Last I heard, they were experimenting with chemical ‘therapies’ that...
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