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Recent content by tarview

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    Misreading social signals

    I just thought of something that I do that is very likely related to Asperger's and thought I'd share it and see if this fits anyone else. Part of my "normal" face is "social reflexes" - attempting to read social cues and respond to them appropriately, even if I don't understand them. For...
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    When AS punches you in the gut

    When I first realized I was an Aspie, I felt so relieved. Finally, a name to put to all my little quirks! And it was my wife who first came up with the idea that it was even a possibility. But it seems like all this has accomplished is driving her away. I don't think she's even done any reading...
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    What Is Your Favorite Number?

    My favorite has always been 25. Not sure of the significance. As a kid, I had always imagined I'd get married on my 25th birthday. That would make it easy to remember my anniversary and to figure out how long I'd been married. Of course, that didn't happen, so now I have to remember a date.
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    Coping with a high stress job

    I need some input from my fellow Aspies. I've just recently come to the realization that I have AS. Not officially diagnosed, but it's almost a certainty. Anyway, finding out in the middle of my life like this is kind of a jolt. I've never been good at keeping a job and never understood why...
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    Aspies and hugging

    I guess I've got kind of a double standard. I really don't like being touched at all, but my go-to for social interaction with people I know well is to make physical contact with them. I guess I've just established a rule that they LIKE to be touched, so I'll touch them. But I really don't want...
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    What Are Your Fears (Big & Small)

    Heights. Confrontation. High speeds. It's all related to the adrenaline rush that's associated with these things. I don't like that feeling at all.
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    NT and Aspie Communication

    Right, so you're asking if I can read emotions. No, I can't. On a side note, you mentioned a funeral. I just realized that I've always hated funerals because I know I'm supposed to be sad, but I'm not. I've even forced myself to cry just so I wouldn't hurt someone else's feelings. Hmm, it all...
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    NT and Aspie Communication

    Emotions are internal, so I'd say that no one really interacts on an emotional level. If you're asking if I can read others' emotions and express my own, usually no. But do I feel those emotions? Yes. If you tell me that you're feeling angry, do I understand what that is? Yes. It's not the...
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    NT and Aspie Communication

    I care about them. I care about their interests if they align with my own. My conversational skills may prevent me from addressing their interests properly which could make them think I don't care about them. I've learned (since being married to my current wife) to use words related to their...
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    NT and Aspie Communication

    E-mail would be my preferred method of communication because (as stated by others) I can take the time to put my thoughts together. No one feels awkward at my pauses and I don't feel rushed to come up with something witty to say. (For instance, if we were face-to-face and you asked this...
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    NT and Aspie Communication

    1. Take my words literally. Don't try to read my body language to determine my intention. I have no intention other than what I literally stated. 2. Don't be subtle when telling me something. Assume I won't pick up the signals and just come out and say it. 3. Stop questioning whether I "really"...
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    Question for Aspie Guys...

    Make up a nickname. Any name that isn't obviously insulting would be fine ("Handsome" comes to mind). And if he looks at you confused, just say, "Just trying it out. What do you think?"
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    Hello

    Thanks for the welcomes! I, too, don't have the funds for getting any actual treatment, but I, too, think that I'm capable enough not to need it. Though I may at some point if the funds are there. That's me right now. I was actually lying in bed last night, wondering, "So if all of these...
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    Hello

    Hi, everyone. My name is Tim. I am not officially diagnosed, but I am fairly certain that I have AS. I didn't realize it until last night, actually. I had heard of AS, but didn't know a lot about it. My wife always tells me that I'm rude and mean, but I never see it. I think I'm just...
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