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Recent content by sil80guy

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    Need advice. GF with Asperger's broke up with me.

    It saddens me to write this, but it is over for the foreseeable future. We talked and caught up a bit. Talked about us, and the real reasoning behind the break up was that since she moved, she finally tasted freedom like she never had before. Throughout her life from childhood to right before...
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    Need advice. GF with Asperger's broke up with me.

    I unfortunately reached out last Thursday. It did go well though, I think what helped was being direct. I told her that I missed her and the dogs a lot, and if she had energy for it, maybe we could meet up that weekend. The answer was what everyone would have guessed. She said she's not ready...
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    Need advice. GF with Asperger's broke up with me.

    I'm not sure if this thread will be useful for anyone in the present or in the future, so I'll keep it updated as time goes on. My hope is there is a conclusion, and hopefully it will be a good read for any NT's that may stumble upon this thread. We ended up having a brief conversation today...
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    Need advice. GF with Asperger's broke up with me.

    Thank you. Yes I've been told by my close friends that I am very selfless. I do understand that that is not healthy, and I have been takin advantage of plenty of times. It is indeed very difficult to find a balance, and it is something I try to bring to the forefront when I do things for...
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    Need advice. GF with Asperger's broke up with me.

    I agree with this sentiment about feeling obligated to do anything. Everything I did for her was out of care and love. I loved and enjoyed seeing her smile. I always told her she wasn't obligated to feel indebted or that she had to pay me back in any way. In that regards, I may have done too...
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    Need advice. GF with Asperger's broke up with me.

    I understand where Jordy is coming from. So I will try to explain a bit more to maybe shed some light. Let me begin by saying, I don't want to think of her in a negative context, I think she was a very amazing a beautiful person both inside and out. I personally don't consider that she had any...
  7. sil80guy

    Need advice. GF with Asperger's broke up with me.

    Thank you so much, what you have commented is almost exactly what I just went through. Internally I had already figured all of this out, but reading it here and now has made me realize it more. Everything from what you've said about it being new and fresh to things getting really serious and...
  8. sil80guy

    Need advice. GF with Asperger's broke up with me.

    Thank you everyone, I've read everything that everyone said. It has helped a lot and helped me understand things better. We didn't live with each other, but she wanted me over every weekend. During her low times, we did our own things, but in proximity of each other. I'm realizing I probably...
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    Need advice. GF with Asperger's broke up with me.

    Thank you, I do understand that everyone is different. And after doing a lot of research, I also came to the realization that it hugely differs from people to people. I was hoping in a generic sense, to find a meaning of it all, and to see if there is some hope.
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    Need advice. GF with Asperger's broke up with me.

    ENFJ is a personality type. 2w1 is an Enneagram type. Not official by any means. It comes down to, in the simplistic form, I'm very empathetic.
  11. sil80guy

    Need advice. GF with Asperger's broke up with me.

    Hello, Sorry about the long post. I was dating a very amazing person for ~5 months. The first 3 months were amazing. Lots of fun and affection. During that time, and before we started dating, she alluded to having mental illness. She was in a marriage, which ended up in a divorce. She lived...
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