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Recent content by Rebekah Spencer

  1. Rebekah Spencer

    Long-term NT-Aspie Relationship: Is Invalidation Normal?

    Streetwise, I am sorry you feel attacked and wanted to reply and am very sorry that I have been offline for so long. I came down with the flu and wasn't able to figure out how to get onto this thread using my phone. I don't think it's very nice to say an adult is acting like a two year old but...
  2. Rebekah Spencer

    Long-term NT-Aspie Relationship: Is Invalidation Normal?

    Suiseiseki, I believe all of us have something to share. My greatest comfort in all of this has been people on the spectrum and their partners. My partner and I attended an Asperger/NT potluck a few weeks ago and had one of the couples that we met there over to a dinner party at our place last...
  3. Rebekah Spencer

    HELP! I'm really struggling with flatmate's boyfriend staying over !!!

    I just saw your questions above and think all of them sound reasonable.
  4. Rebekah Spencer

    HELP! I'm really struggling with flatmate's boyfriend staying over !!!

    I'm pretty sure your lease should state how often visitors are allowed to stay at your place. If it does this still doesn't help with the problem of your friend and her treatment of you when standing up for your right to feel comfortable and safe in your own home! I am so sorry that she has...
  5. Rebekah Spencer

    Long-term NT-Aspie Relationship: Is Invalidation Normal?

    Ylva, I agree that this behavior is not okay and is assholish for sure. I let him know I am not okay with actions like this. Which usually lead to him pointing out everything I have done wrong, he will not accept responsibility for his actions. I stayed up last night reading "Alone together" by...
  6. Rebekah Spencer

    Long-term NT-Aspie Relationship: Is Invalidation Normal?

    Devany, I also am in love with a man who behaves exactly as you describe. He is also working in the IT realm and I joined today because I have been doing research, trying to figure out what is going on. I have never been in a forum like this before and am a bit unsure if how it all works but so...
  7. Rebekah Spencer

    I want to be a support to the man I love without losing my joy. I am exhausted.

    I want to be a support to the man I love without losing my joy. I am exhausted.
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