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Recent content by Noba Loney

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    Short Gary Numan interview (1980) is LOL #relatable

    I think Gary Numan is self-diagnosed aspergian. This interview is funny. "I don't know" is always a good answer but not usually what interviewers are looking for on live television.
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    Are mathematical ability and mental illness linked?

    I am not especially good with maths but very sane and stable. This anecdote proves the thesis ;-)
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    Is my autistic co-worker flirting with me?

    Rather than speculating about motives, conscious or otherwise, or possible outcomes, and strategising behind the scenes, maybe a simple direct approach could work. You could say something to her like "Alice, it's great that you seem to trust me and see me as a friend in the organisation but I'm...
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    Insomnia

    May be related or not, but as anyone posting here is using phones and computers the thing about cutting down blue light content after dark is good general advice IMO. That goes for LED lighting as well.
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    Aspergers and Vertigo

    Interesting. I had no idea there was any connection between ASD and vertigo. I've had some residual vertigo for about four months now following a dramatic episode that incapacitated me for a few days (clinging to the floor and being sick.) Hadn't considered it could be related to stress or...
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    Low comprehension

    Watched the clip by the way and although I'm not female I could relate much of what she said to my own experience (and to aspie women I know).
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    Favorite bad movies?

    This is pretty great. Took a few watches for me to really appreciate it. The 'plot' isn't exactly coherent but he's said it's not supposed to be and there are some very striking images. Good soundtrack too. There's a TV movie called Murder On Flight 502 that always made me laugh with its...
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    Low comprehension

    It's weird that people find a slightly delayed, i.e. considered response to an inquiry disturbing or rude but that's often the case. They expect a snap response or get anxious because they feel you're not playing along. Perhaps. Especially if I have other things to process, like a noisy or...
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    Low comprehension

    Interestingly I find this happens with questions that are on the face of it extremely simple, but actually either indirect or unnecessary. The expected response is a ritualistic social thing and not so much to do with any ostensible information exchange. This isn't a rigorous theory, just an...
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    People assuming ulterior motives for "no reason".

    Yeah. What makes me think it can be 'cognitive' is that It looks so wild sometimes, e.g. postng something and moments later completely denying it. At least make it vaguely plausible, please! But also I guess there isn't a strict divide between the 'cognitive' and the psychological anyway.
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    How do you deal with people who are awkward/not accomodating

    I don't drive but walk around town quite a bit. The sidewalk / pavements are often quite narrow and I find a lot of people walk about quite aggressively or obliviously trying to claim priority. Unless I'm really in a hurry I just slow right down or even stop and let them go. I don't know what...
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    How do you deal with people who are awkward/not accomodating

    If they aren't being helpful / accommodating then it can help to remind yourself that - It's not your fault that they are failing to help. Maybe they are being selfish, ignorant, lacking awareness, thinking about something else, or maybe for some reason you can't see they are unable to be more...
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    People assuming ulterior motives for "no reason".

    OK, yes. I don't know if you're hinting but perhaps I'm not entirely blameless in wanting to 'win'. I mean, I do try and watch for that. A lot of these situations are not zero-sum, though and winning can be defined in different ways. Certainly never want to set out to hurt anyone unless they go...
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    People assuming ulterior motives for "no reason".

    That's true though, even if meant half in jest. It avoids all that trouble (by preemptively letting someone 'win' in case a competitive agenda is involved or takes over), but takes away the interesting / fun part of solving problems and trying to find some truth.
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    People assuming ulterior motives for "no reason".

    That's brilliant T! *Privately mulls over reasons why Ts suggestion could be problematic*
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