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Recent content by MOPS

  1. M

    I screwed up a few friendships, and need to understand better what went wrong? I think my autism caused me to do a few inappropriate things.

    OK I understand! I won’t try to change someone’s answer if they say No or give me an answer I don’t like. Obviously we all find it difficult, but I agree it’s something we all need to make sure we respect.
  2. M

    I screwed up a few friendships, and need to understand better what went wrong? I think my autism caused me to do a few inappropriate things.

    Just something else that I left out in my original post is that when I talked with Mark, he told me that Tessa has likely been more direct with me, but Kate is very kind and often has trouble saying No to people, so she tries to soften it too much.
  3. M

    I screwed up a few friendships, and need to understand better what went wrong? I think my autism caused me to do a few inappropriate things.

    I already know all this, nothing is new, but I was always often taught that squeaky wheel gets the grease, and you can try to push in businesses or careers. My Dad would always do that when it came to trying to get what he wants in a business or career setting, but NEVER in a relationship.
  4. M

    I screwed up a few friendships, and need to understand better what went wrong? I think my autism caused me to do a few inappropriate things.

    I honestly think you have some great points. I will admit that with the community / ministry rejection, I didn't really want to accept the "No", and was looking for loopholes. However, this wasn't so much a personal No to a relationship as much as a No to business / career thing and my career...
  5. M

    I screwed up a few friendships, and need to understand better what went wrong? I think my autism caused me to do a few inappropriate things.

    I might try that, but do you think maybe I could try that after 6 months or a year? I'd rather give them space now and not interact with them for a while just to prove that I can respect boundaries and show them that I care about their feelings. I feel a lot of times we often want to jump and...
  6. M

    I screwed up a few friendships, and need to understand better what went wrong? I think my autism caused me to do a few inappropriate things.

    Understood! I honestly doubt that those people didn't want to be friends at all, but I believe it might have to do with the level of friendship. Just to clarify I never actually went to a place I wasn't supposed to go to, but I did ask a lot and tried to get different answers, so I guess it...
  7. M

    I screwed up a few friendships, and need to understand better what went wrong? I think my autism caused me to do a few inappropriate things.

    I think you are mostly correct. No I would not say that friend groups are tightly knit to the people you work with at all in my religion. However, with the nature of this community, it is meant to invest in college students, mentor them, and share the religious faith with them and raise...
  8. M

    I screwed up a few friendships, and need to understand better what went wrong? I think my autism caused me to do a few inappropriate things.

    I honestly think you are correct! And yes, when I talked with Mark, he told me that I was kind of old as well and that community specifically is focused on undergrad students (I didn't know that until I had that long conversation with Mark). And I can assure that it was nothing personal against...
  9. M

    I screwed up a few friendships, and need to understand better what went wrong? I think my autism caused me to do a few inappropriate things.

    Two completely different situations that have absolutely no correlation to each other. This current situation is failure to recognize the boundaries. Forget about the other one as it’s totally irrelevant now.
  10. M

    I screwed up a few friendships, and need to understand better what went wrong? I think my autism caused me to do a few inappropriate things.

    Well if this is the truth, then Mark did the right thing by making them come clean about it.
  11. M

    I screwed up a few friendships, and need to understand better what went wrong? I think my autism caused me to do a few inappropriate things.

    Well to be honest, if what you are saying is true, I could probably talk to higher authorities in the organization, tell them what happened, and ask them to do an investigation on Mark and the specific branch and interview all those people for their side of the story. If they conclude that what...
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