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Recent content by kyliewyote

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    NT with aspie bf witth anger rants

    Thank you.....but hard to just sit idle. Trying to find the best way to communicate to him for awareness....
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    NT with aspie bf witth anger rants

    Acknowledged....so what do I do in the middle of one of them? (And please also take into account that I have also responded to some of his statements/questions). In the recent one on Ukraine, said I'm "drinking the kool-aid and don't know fact". I responded with a couple facts, and he then...
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    NT with aspie bf witth anger rants

    Just re-read this.....im already doing Irish stand down, but will highlight more in my brain
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    NT with aspie bf witth anger rants

    Thanks...will work towards that. It's just generally an angry (long) monolog on a topic, then me trying to de-escalate, and that being fuel in the fire. I need to find the magic pill for the middle...
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    NT with aspie bf witth anger rants

    Agreed on a quiet time conversation. And time apart is not negative in this case.
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    NT with aspie bf witth anger rants

    Got it....conundrum is most of his actions are good. But small bursts can override those...
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    NT with aspie bf witth anger rants

    Things are good until there is an outburst, which has been the last year or so with some of his life frustrations, and yes, those times are hostile. Just trying to figure how to break the pattern of anger rant --> me trying to dispell/quieten --> worse direct anger/blame on me. It's like a fire...
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    NT with aspie bf witth anger rants

    Agreed......each relationship is unique. I'm just trying to figure what I can do for now. There are path choices for future, but I'm working as best I can on present now Agreed....trying to work through right now.....
  9. kyliewyote

    NT with aspie bf witth anger rants

    Thanks...I try to middle-ground, and even to just agree with him one time (and he got angry at that). When he gets loud, I just say "can you speak a little lower, but that's not working (across 3 times) and maybe it's become an additional trigger to him for more anger, so I'll change that
  10. kyliewyote

    NT with aspie bf witth anger rants

    Well-said....thank you. This is pretty much the last try Thank you.... First of all, I am in no way looking for anyone to 'take sides'. Thank you for putting that in your response. Lots(!) Of similarities in what you described....he hates to be wrong, doesn't like opinion different from his...
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    Is this really a friend worth it for me to consider?

    I'm on another string I started, but am so appreciative of the responses, I figured to offer the same kindness in some other strings. He said he's going through med changes, so leave an open door for that....but keep your main door with all the other options you may find where the effort is more...
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    NT with aspie bf witth anger rants

    Ps....sorry for your online experience, especially calling you a bigot. I understand the bluntness aspires can have, and that it can come across the wrong way. That's an another issue not for this string that I deal with from him, but he just doesn't care what he says, different from you...
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    NT with aspie bf witth anger rants

    Politics seem to be his pressure cooker release, and the most prevalent rant. He's extremely partisan, and I try to see the pros and cons...but anything I say not in agreement with him, or if I try to provide other points or opinions, I'm aggressively shot down I see political discussions like...
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    NT with aspie bf witth anger rants

    T Thank you....will do some research and reading on your suggested topics. You're on point. He is not working where he wants right now (doing engineering and high level mechanical) when his real job and passion is working with big animals -- lions,tigers, snow leopards, bears,etc -- he misses...
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    NT with aspie bf witth anger rants

    Good idea, and I should have done so. I've considered it before. We were both separately looking at points of the Ukraine issue, and I popped on a decible reader. I was around 25db and he was in the mid 70s (and he was 4 feet away. Good advice, and I've thought about it before. I can record, at...
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