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Recent content by erk70

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    Age Assumptions?

    On a developmental level I feel like I'm somewhere in my 20ies (I am in fact 43). I feel I've done fewer things than peers my age (family, kids and so on). I also feel that I have no problem connecting with people half my age although I am a pretty private person so perhaps I haven't reached...
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    How do i stop arguing with people?

    Sometimes when I hear something stupid I have these rants to myself (I live alone)... It can help blowing off steam... (I think my ADHD helps me get up and off the chair... which prevents me from "ranting" into the computer... so, get up and do something else!) An other trick is to imagine that...
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    how to be less negative, or pessimistic.

    Me three! I was in a situation at lunch just the other day where we were discussing something tangentially work related. It took me a while to realize that I was in a conflict of sorts with the other people, however, as soon as I did, I took stock of the situation and realized I had to accept...
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    I dont think there anything "wrong" with me.

    In my experience I'm sometimes tasked to be the one saying the unpleasant truths... however, I'm with you, in part... A lot of Aspies have problems. Because we're different. Most of these problems exists in the interaction with other people. I had a thought, if only everyone on this planet...
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    I dont think there anything "wrong" with me.

    Or as some people like to say: don't fix it if it aint broken :)
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    I dont think there anything "wrong" with me.

    In my opinion there's never any wrong with a person... ...although sometimes the interaction with other people can go wrong (okay, most of the time it goes wrong, even between NTs -- see Wiios laws of communication), but then it's the responsibility of both parties. One person can't...
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    Hi! Some various questions about Aspergers.

    I work in the computer business and I swear, 50% of my colleagues are Aspies, have ADHD and other spectrumness -- or at least they have "hints of it". I'm not saying they may all be disabled, but the acceptance of people being different are high! That said I think there are businesses where...
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    how to be less negative, or pessimistic.

    With respect to childhood abuse, I've always been helped by something Dr. Phil wrote in one of his books. You should forgive people that's done you wrong, not necessarily because they deserve it, but because you deserve it. By forgiving, you let go of the hold of the past. Once you've forgiven...
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    how to be less negative, or pessimistic.

    Here's a practical tip to get you going. Look at your behaviors and divide them into those you want to do more, and those you want to do differently. Don't worry too much about the "do differently" part... in my experience the solution is always "out there" somewhere (not as in "out there" in...
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    how to be less negative, or pessimistic.

    Thank you! I think that one's been brewing for a couple of decades! Sometimes it seems to take a lot of time for me to figure things out... but hey, that's my process! I've heard the expression, if you solve one problem you have a handful new problems... so whenever you're bumping into new...
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    how to be less negative, or pessimistic.

    To me, this is a question of learning new behavior. Which isn't necessarily an easy thing. I'm thinking like this: If you want to change your life by finding and solving problems, you will learn all about problems, how they look and how they feel. You will define your world and the situations...
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    what are some things that you LOVE about being an aspie?

    My persistence. I have projects that lasted decades and I still keep going. It's my process and I don't seem to tire just yet. The ability to focus both on details and the whole (although the latter is not supposed to be typical Aspie behavior, as far as I've understood... but then I have...
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    Does anyone here have family members who also have aspergers, as well as themselves

    Re: Does anyone here have family members who also have aspergers, as well as themselv Autism is heredetary. My doctor, at Karolinska, said autism had a heredetary of 0.9 (I think that means 90% - although I may be wrong), and she just said Autism, not Asperger specifically. I asked the same...
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    What's wrong with this sentence?

    Hmmm... but I am not sure the author of the article means what you think. I think what she's trying to say is that even though an AS might not express their needs clearly but in fact assume everyone knows them (due to lack of mentalization) the NT in the relationship will still have to express...
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