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Recent content by Chris12345

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    Pressure

    The general state of the world, as you say, is another one that I forgot to mention. There are so many problems. The general state of the world is, in many ways, atrocious. From climate change, to inequality, to war, to exploitation. I'm lucky I live in a country that is fairly functional (the...
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    Pressure

    Thanks for the reply. I've been trying lately to be around people I get on with and avoid, if at all possible, those I don't. I particularly want to avoid people who are domineering and controlling, or arrogant and obnoxious. I don't like conflict, but when I run in to some people it's almost...
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    Pressure

    I often feel a background sense of pressure, like the weight of the world is on my shoulders. It's not about anything specific that I can figure out, just a nebulous sense of pressure. I've had this issue for a long time, I assume it must be connected with autism. It's not there all the time...
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    Recent Breakup

    Sounds like you need to do some work on your personality before a good relationship will be possible.
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    Autistic Question

    Soon after I got diagnosed I was around some people and there was one I had noticed a few times and not thought much about. Then I just thought "he's autistic and probably doesn't know it". I didn't say anything, it's not my place to say that and I could be wrong. Don't want to cause offence...
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    Are you treated differently

    I'm not inclined to tell people I'm autistic unless I have to or I feel they would be understanding. There's a lot of stigma and unconscious prejudice. I only got diagnosed a few months ago, at 39. When I used to work, before I knew I was autistic, there were one or two colleagues who treated...
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    How does one lift oneself out of textbook depression?

    There was someone I was friends with who killed himself a few years ago. Some time before he did - I'm not sure how long, maybe a year - I stopped messaging him because I felt he was too passive and didn't offer much as a friend. I regret doing that. But I don't blame myself for what he did...
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    How does one lift oneself out of textbook depression?

    Being around people. Focusing on something you're interested in (preferably involving other people in some way). Some kind of project or hobbie that you can become passionate about.
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    Still single

    That's Pascal you're referring to, who said the thing about people not being able to sit quietly in a room and that being the cause of all humanity's problems. There's probably a lot of truth in that. Eckhart makes a lot of points, it's hard to sum it all up in one sentence. The stuff about...
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    Still single

    I do it as well. My mind goes into the future and creates the most miserable situations and scenarios, where I'm losing control of my life, etc. Distant scenarios that will probably never happen. It's not a pleasant thing. It seems to be a lot easier to think negative thoughts than positive ones...
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    Still single

    At least you're honest about it. Maybe if you turned your attention to other things for a while - hobbies, interests, a new project. Maybe also go a bit easier on yourself. Your siblings aren't autistic (I'm guessing). Make allowances for that.
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    Networking events *eek!*

    You can learn these things, to some extent. I've got much less anxious in my social interactions over the years. I'm still not brilliant socially, but through practice I have improved, including in informal situations. If you put yourself out there enough you can sometimes learn these kind of...
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    Still single

    You need to offer a woman something before she's going to be attracted. If you're needy, worrying and complaining all the time then it's highly unlikely you'll attract any interest. You need to have interests, prospects, positive energy, opinions, etc. Some reason why she would want to be...
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    Rainman

    The way I've heard it put is that autistic people often have a 'spiky profile', in the sense of being very good at some things and very poor at others. I feel that applies in my case, to some extent. Sometimes I feel smart; other times I feel stupid. Just depends on the context. In terms of...
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    Rainman

    There is a question raised in the film about whether he's autistic. It's subtle, but it's there. So subtle that I forgot about it. If I remember correctly there's a point where Charlie asks Raymond if he's autistic and he replies "no, definitely not". I might watch the film again and look out...
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