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Recent content by AndrewMiller

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    Should I seek a diagnosis for myself?

    It took me some days to realize that I was so concern about how much she wouldn't like it or be mad about it... That I didn't even think that I won't get any support, consideration or compassion from her. It goes to show how much anything I do these days is measured against how mad she will be...
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    Should I seek a diagnosis for myself?

    Nothing wrong, unless you ask the woman whose kids are going to be homeless if I chose to live alone. I've been told many times "that's not your problem", but I can't make myself feel like that. I know if it happened, I don't think I'd try to form another family. Not be involved with someone...
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    Should I seek a diagnosis for myself?

    @Richelle-H I know I can't solve all her problems onmy own. And I'm not trying to. Her first obvious diagnosis was anorexia nerviosa. There I learned that anything I said could make things worse. And I started to educate myself. Then came another diagnosis that explained more. I did the same...
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    Should I seek a diagnosis for myself?

    Hi, we haven't waited till he's 16 to try and start raising him. Their biological father was abusive and authoritarian with a military background. I'm, in the words of their mother, an ax#@le, because I insist on them finishing their duties, and when I set a consecuence, I keep it. Of course...
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    Should I seek a diagnosis for myself?

    It's no intrusion at all. I appreciate it. She knows she's in a long term depression. She cries a lot, everyday. I wish I knew how to comfort her. I've learned you give a hug to someone that's crying, but she doesn't like that, and I get it. But I don't know what else to do either. I ask her...
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    Should I seek a diagnosis for myself?

    That's one thing I don't understand. For the kids, everything is a competition. If one advances a bit in a videogame, the other one doesn't want to play it anymore. She says a band she likes is ruined for her if someone else says they like the same band, if she doesn't like that person much...
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    Should I seek a diagnosis for myself?

    I didn't expect to get so many answers, so I can't thank you all enough. I also didn't expect to turn the topic around so much. But it's hard to understand my life without this context. I know our communication must improve first of all. But as I'm failing at that, I look for other aspects to...
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    Should I seek a diagnosis for myself?

    @The Pandector I'm not sure I understand you. I've been changing my life so she would trust me for 8 years. I go from the office home, and back. I've talked this with her plenty of times. She says it's part of her personality. The fact, if confirmed, that I'm in the spectrum...I don't know...
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    Should I seek a diagnosis for myself?

    I agree. I felt like a "good husband" and that was enough for me for many years in a previous marriage. She was a teacher and a singer, and I felt she was inspiring and helping other people, so she was good for humanity, and I was good for her. So my life had purpose. I was depressed some time...
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    Should I seek a diagnosis for myself?

    Thanks a lot. I have it pending to have a look. We are a bit desperate as no one seems to be able to help our 16yo kid. So we are a bit scared of going to new places because they can ammount to nothing too. And we are scared of exhausting all the doors to knock on. I don't want to use...
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    Should I seek a diagnosis for myself?

    Sure, you're right. SHE was misdiagnosed for most of her life, and just recently she was diagnosed as having Asperger's. We both have been called Aspies or autistic (as a joke?) in the past. We were both called "brilliant students with poor social skills", that's how we met, a common teacher...
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    Should I seek a diagnosis for myself?

    I'm in Spain, that's why I don't ask specific advice. I don't even understand my health system. We have public health care, but I must go through a private company before, because of my job, that it's in the Public Administration. Doesn't make any sense. So I mostly don't go to the/any doctor.
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    Should I seek a diagnosis for myself?

    Wow Thanks a lot for your quick answers. I'm in no rush for a diagnosis, but I think I need therapy soon. As I struggle more and more to find life bearable. In this family unit, I'm forced to be the one holding the fort. My SO doesn't work, and the kids are skipping school at an alarming...
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    Should I seek a diagnosis for myself?

    I've been learning about autism and mental health for some years now, but it was about my significant other and her kids. Any time I read personal accounts of experiences from people in the spectrum, I find myself thinking "this is how I feel" or "I don't find that weird at all, but completely...
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    Lost father and husband

    We are in line for a program that would substitute school, he would go there from monday to friday, from 9 to 14h, or something like that. He would be home after that everyday. We heard about another program where he would live there for some weeks. Even short stays at the hospital are hard on...
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