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Recent content by Allen H

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    Incapable Of Dating

    How early is "early?" For many years I sought out relationships with young ladies in their teens, for both religious and personality (I am an Aspie) reasons. On the religious grounds I would only consider a virgin for a potential bride since I am an Orthodox Christian and the Bible teaches no...
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    Dating: How can I get a girlfriend?

    Dating is one way to get to know someone, but it can be a very difficult path to follow if you are an Aspie with limited socialization skills. For many of us with this handicap, it is much easier to communicate in writing than verbally. When interacting via the written word there is time to...
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    Dating advice

    Just maybe, there is nothing much that she has to say. I mean, how far do you trust the evaluation of this "mutual friend"? Even if it is accurate, how reasonable is if for your gf to expect you to realize that she is "stressed?" If she knows that you are on the spectrum, this would be...
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    Dating: How can I get a girlfriend?

    There have been a number of comments on taking a non-traditional approach to getting to know someone without going the western "dating" route. This makes sense for Aspies, who lack social skills and don't know what to say or do on "dates." So I went that route. I was a seemingly hopeless...
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    Dating advice

    Sounds like a gossip fest waiting to happen, to me. I'd keep my mouth shut until/unless the gf brings up the subject of being "stressed" to you.
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    Autism and Buddhism

    Yes, you are correct in that we can't travel back in time and find out how old the earth and universe is. What scientists do is examine current data/observations to derive "laws" (regularities) in nature and use these to interpret the observations. Unproven (and unprovable) assumptions are...
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    What is this?

    What is this?
    • Allen H
    • Profile post
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    Growing out of autism

    As is pointed out by many of the interlocutors above, the so-called "growing out" is most likely the deployment of consciously chosen coping behaviors based upon experience. As an older Aspie who was never diagnosed in his younger days I can personally attest to this process of learning various...
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    I Need Help and Comfort Please

    Ah yes, that good old "committed relationship". Maybe you are finding out that the commitment wasn't so strong on the other end? I share the suspicions, expressed above, that you may be dealing with "me too" diagnoses.
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    Do you annoy NTs without realizing it?

    Yup! I am a bear about that also, rarely paying any attention to the "cues" that the person involved is being "offended" (partial exceptions are people who are personally important to me). I used to teach logic (both traditional Aristotelian and modern symbolic logic). Standing in front of...
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    The Love & Dating thread.

    I'm an older Aspie who didn't know anything about Asperger's when I was younger - nobody was diagnosing it then. I had the usual symptoms - leading to my being inept in social situations. In particular, I didn't have a clue about how to relate to women, so dates were few and far between. I...
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