At hello, my love interest told me he had Asperger's. We hit it off! He made plans for us to travel by train to the east and meet his Dad during Christmas. He also made other future plans to attend concerts together. After one month, he told me he would continue to see his ex (ongoing eight-year; now, platonic relationship) and that he would go to lunch with other females without me. I asked if he meant he would do this after we reached significant and/or marital status. He said yes. I asked if he would include me. He said no there would be times he wanted to be with the ex and other women alone. In true Pam-fashion, I told him that I did not agree with those arrangements. He cut me off like lightning! His parting words: "This is not going to work" and "I'm done with this conversation today." Then he disconnected. I was shocked and crushed. Asperger's is not an excuse to be mean. I have not heard from him since. I was kind and accommodating without reservation. He would tell you that.
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