I once made the mistake of pointing out to a lady that she'd come out of the toilets with her skirt all cuaght up in the back of her stockings. I thought I was being helpful. From then on I've always kept my mouth shut.
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^^ I thought it was helpful too, never again. The same deal in summer when a woman is wearing a loose singlet and one breast is hanging out. Don't say a word, you'll regret it. (my 16 year old apprentice made that mistake)
Forest Cat
That is strange, @Outdated. I would very much like to know if my clothes were completely messed up. Or if I had something in my teeth, things like that. But I have noticed that many people think it's bad to tell people about things like that, so they pretend nothing is wrong.
Outdated
I think they must need to be able to imagine that no one noticed when they realise. It's a trap for young players.
Aneka
I actually dislike it when people don't tell me if I'm looking dishevelled. A whole class of girls did not tell me I had charcoal smeared across my face in art class lol.
Forest Cat
Yeah I understand what you mean @Luca. We might have gone a little off-topic here.
maycontainthunder
In today's society people just seem so oblivious that their comments about someone's appearance are insulting or hurtful. Woe betide any that pass comment on their appearance because they can't handle what they dish out.
Rodafina
I think if anybody is saying things like this to any of us, we should say “that is rude and hurtful and nasty. Please don’t speak to me that way.”
Aneka
Sorry, I went astray.
If people tell that to your face they are secretly jealous of you. That's a fact. They won't pick on people who are not seen as competition. That's chicken flock mania.
If people tell that to your face they are secretly jealous of you. That's a fact. They won't pick on people who are not seen as competition. That's chicken flock mania.
maycontainthunder
50 years ago that would've worked @Rodafina . Today I think an awful lot of people would take being told that they are being rude as an insult making the situation worse. Responding to their hurtful comments is exactly what they want. The only way is to ignore.
All-Rounder
Lol my breasts came out in a group dance and when i noticed I screamed like hell, it was terrifying. Never again a dress without straps for dancing.
^yep with strangers silence is very powerful as they're looking for a reaction, especially someone to get upset, emotional etc. Not feeding the trolls.
^yep with strangers silence is very powerful as they're looking for a reaction, especially someone to get upset, emotional etc. Not feeding the trolls.