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Looks as if they left a few words out of their reply.
It ought to read:

"No. I can't help you. And that's so selfish of me."
Metalhead
Metalhead
I have been there. You will not get any patronizing from me here.
Hazel_1914
Hazel_1914
I had friends show up when I had Covid in 2022, and bring food. (One African chap brought dried beans, which managed to spill and I'm still finding beans.) Friends show up & help each other out; I think you'd do yourself a favor to get rid of a few of these Job's-comforters.
Aspychata
Aspychata
Friendship is such a hard word to define. I always get fake female friends. I have had many of those.
Rodafina
Rodafina
@Gerontius
Who spilled the beans???
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Rodafina
Rodafina
@Luca
I would be angry too. This would be hard advice for me to take, so to both of us I would say just don’t let this situation prevent you from asking for help again in the future. I understand not wanting to ask for help, but sometimes it is the right thing to do and a bad experience like this shouldn’t slow us down from trying again from someone else in the future. It’s okay to ask for help.
L
Luca
Thank you for your honesty. I know it’s okay to ask for help sometimes, but I think some people in my life have made me feel like it’s wrong to ask. I also grew up taking care of myself and doing everything on my own so it’s hard to accept assistance.
L
Luca
I obviously don’t want to ask for help constantly either, or get used to relying on other people, but I do need to learn that I don’t need to do *every little thing* by myself.
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