I remember that you said this some time ago. do you have contact to them? do you want contact to them? I think either you decide for having kids and care for them without complaining or you don´t have kids. but deciding for kids and then acting like this is not really responsible or fair.
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Shaddock
Lou Laurinen
I’m adopted, but that makes it worse because they chose me. I was not a young child at the time.
I do want to have contact with them, and I’m sad that they’re acting like this because we always had a great relationship before.
Now I feel like they just want to move on from me. It’s giving me the same feelings of abandonment that I have from being discarded by my biological parents.
I do want to have contact with them, and I’m sad that they’re acting like this because we always had a great relationship before.
Now I feel like they just want to move on from me. It’s giving me the same feelings of abandonment that I have from being discarded by my biological parents.
Shaddock
but it´s not your fault. your a cool adult child : P
I heard that many foster familys adopt childs, care for them for short time, but never equate them with their own childs, so it´s not a "real family" or some foster familys only do that because of the money. but sure not everyone. maybe here it´s similar.
I heard that many foster familys adopt childs, care for them for short time, but never equate them with their own childs, so it´s not a "real family" or some foster familys only do that because of the money. but sure not everyone. maybe here it´s similar.
Shaddock
do you really need a family? or could friends or a partner replace that? I have a family, but they never really felt like a normal family for me. I have good contact to them atm, but they more feel like normal contacts, even my mother and not like a family. I think sometimes it´s just like that and I don´t miss anything.