• Feeling isolated? You're not alone.

    Join 20,000+ people who understand exactly how your day went. Whether you're newly diagnosed, self-identified, or supporting someone you love – this is a space where you don't have to explain yourself.

    Join the Conversation → It's free, anonymous, and supportive.

    As a member, you'll get:

    • A community that actually gets it – no judgment, no explanations needed
    • Private forums for sensitive topics (hidden from search engines)
    • Real-time chat with others who share your experiences
    • Your own blog to document your journey

    You've found your people. Create your free account

Autism Forums

L
Luca
Most of the time, my interactions with friends-of-friends end VERY badly, usually with them bullying me or hating me. I understand that I'm not the right fit for everyone in terms of personality, but still. I told him that I'm not comfortable interacting with strangers, especially in a closed environment like that. He is still trying to convince me to go but idk. I have enough issues trusting anyone at all.
Callistemon
Callistemon
Me, you couldn't pay me enough to get me into a nightclub. Or maybe a large sum and I'd do it like an anthropological exercise. But recreationally, it sounds as much fun as pulling out my nose hairs with tweezers. :P
Callistemon
Callistemon
Stick to your boundaries and don't do things that you know make you uncomfortable without a good reason for YOU. E.g. if you fear public speaking you can decide to take classes in it to overcome that fear. I did that because I wanted to become a teacher. Not for someone else's birthday.
Callistemon
Callistemon
If he's a real friend he will respect your boundaries, if not, keep shopping for a better friend.

You could suggest nightclubs are definitely not your thing but offer him an outing or activity for his birthday that you would be comfortable with. Like shout him coffee and cake somewhere, or a visit to a zoo or whatever you both would be happy with.
Callistemon
Callistemon
You could make him a birthday voucher listing various options you would be comfortable with. :)
L
Luca
I love nightclubs. They're not the problem lol. The problem is that I don't trust people that I don't know. And I'm worried that they're the type of people who would view me having a service dog as an embarrassment. She will be fine in the club, I told them I can only be upstairs by the bar where it is quieter. But I don't know these people at all so I have no idea how they would feel about me.
L
Luca
I would love to go to a nightclub with my other friends, without worrying about strangers joining us. I was thinking about inviting my other new friend and her boyfriend, but I think that would be too many people.
Callistemon
Callistemon
Ah, OK. Here, nightclubs are generally full of people you don't know unless you hire them for a private function! ;)
Callistemon
Callistemon
Or maybe you mean, being forced to interact with people you don't know? It's interesting how our sensitivities differ. For me, nightclub = noisy, strobe lights, tons of people you can't get to know because you can't hear them or they you, lots of drunks and leering. At least the stereotypical places here in Australia.
Top Bottom