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Recent content by TylerNT

  1. TylerNT

    Abusive Autism

    I completely understand....accept [;)] what you are saying. What I left out was that I understand everything..that I can. If she doesn't want to talk, if she doesn't want to tell me what is going on than I can only understand what I can see and hear. Maybe we are different (when it comes to her...
  2. TylerNT

    Abusive Autism

    Thank you for this link. I will read it when I can and share it with my wife as well.
  3. TylerNT

    Abusive Autism

    The most difficult thing in our relationship has always been that she has never told me she does not understand me, or that she needs me to say it a different way, or that she needs me to slow down. On the other side with me, I have never felt that I do not understand what she is saying or...
  4. TylerNT

    Abusive Autism

    First of all as I have been apart of the daily struggles my wife has had to experience I would like to say how sorry I am that you had to go through what you did. I think one of the biggest things that is difficult for her right now is. She has accepted the news that she has autism, but she...
  5. TylerNT

    Abusive Autism

    With the dishes, she had just lost track of time. And really I am fine with that. It's not like I was saying "Do the dishes woman! That is your place" lol. It was definitely nothing like that. All I am saying is that I left to go get groceries and was gone for about an hour. I knew that if she...
  6. TylerNT

    Abusive Autism

    I completely agree with you that it happens in a lot of marriages (dissabilities included or not). The timing of the diagnosis is I am still learning how I am unhappy, and the diagnosis makes me feel that not only does she need to overcome PTSD but the knowledge of her having autism will make...
  7. TylerNT

    Abusive Autism

    It definitely has not gotten to the point where I think divorce is an option. The way things have happened mixed with the timing that we got the diagnosis just made this whole situation really hard to work through, but not impossible. This is why I am on here, I am trying to work through my...
  8. TylerNT

    Abusive Autism

    First of all my wife is not going to lose me if all of this doesn't work, we will just reassess and try something else. She is not the only one learning in this relationship, this is why I have an individual therapist that is trained in understanding autism so that he can show me how to better...
  9. TylerNT

    Abusive Autism

    Thank you for rephrasing what you wrote earlier. Her ex definitely grew up in a difficult home, but wife never knew enough about relationships to understand how to look for 'red flags' that come up to avoid people with too many. She told me he has no desire of ever getting help.
  10. TylerNT

    Abusive Autism

    I wish I knew what you were trying to say. I am not understanding. I am sorry. Could you rephrase what you wrote?
  11. TylerNT

    Abusive Autism

    I would like to start with in saying that I completely understand that autism is not separate from her. They are one in the same. My reasoning for saying it that way is because I did not even know about her autism until 4 months ago. Ever since we started going to therapists and we are trying to...
  12. TylerNT

    Abusive Autism

    I am still learning what my needs are versus what I want. I know that I do not want to be a caregiver. That is not something I want right now in my life. I do not feel like a caregiver to her. I know that I want to be with her. I want to make this work. For a long time I have not been happy when...
  13. TylerNT

    Abusive Autism

    I am also hoping for this as well. I know that she has improved so much since we first met. And after diagnosis and going to therapy she is definitely improving now as well. I guess I worry about will she be able to ever be perceptive all the time. There are times that she is perceptive of what...
  14. TylerNT

    Abusive Autism

    The good thing is I am verbally appreciated a lot. She knows how to give me affirmation all the time. However, the problem is with turning verbal appreciation into action appreciation. I do not expect a lot, I know how long it takes for her to learn something that will benefit us in our...
  15. TylerNT

    Abusive Autism

    This is what has kept me going since the beginning. I know the enormous task that she is facing. I am not going to just stop being supportive. For me I have spent the last year and a half realizing just how much I am not being taken care of. I understand she is always going to need more than me...
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