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    Why is living apart sometimes best for a marriage?

    No, you didn't go way off topic at all jacinto; it's all relevant and I've found what you've said helpful. Your describing how things are for you helps me to understand my husband better. Thank you.
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    Why is living apart sometimes best for a marriage?

    Thank you Major Tom. I guess from the reference to someone sighing that you are on the spectrum, rather than NT? From my experience anyway, it's the NT that tries to sit on their emotions but can't quite keep it in, and the AS who lets it all out. I do appreciate your recognition that it's...
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    Why is living apart sometimes best for a marriage?

    Thank you SusanLR . Yes, that's what I want to do really, be able to enjoy each other's company and feel free to be loving because I don't feel so wound up all the time. You've really given me some useful insight into how I can continue the conversation with him. Thank you.
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    Why is living apart sometimes best for a marriage?

    Thank you so much jacinto for helping me to understand how you would feel in my husband's shoes. I'm so grateful that we've had decades of struggle that have resulted in my understanding how he feels and reacts to things, which means that now, very often, I can start my conversations with him in...
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    Why is living apart sometimes best for a marriage?

    Thank you so much everyone. It's wonderful to talk to people that understand!
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    Why is living apart sometimes best for a marriage?

    Thank you LucyPurrs .
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    Why is living apart sometimes best for a marriage?

    Thank you WereBear
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    Why is living apart sometimes best for a marriage?

    Thank you Fitzo . Yes, that's a good point about change. Hopefully the fact that I've started to talk about this way in advance of being able to put it into practice will help him come round to the idea. I'll bear insecurity in mind too, and give him plenty of reassurance. Thank you.
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    Why is living apart sometimes best for a marriage?

    Thank you Suzanne. 'we are realistic enough to know that if we separated, we probably would not come back to each other again, but that does not mean we would be happy to see the other in a new relationship and plus, we are both christians and therefore, we work our issues out together.' To be...
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    Why is living apart sometimes best for a marriage?

    Thank you MereteFairy . Yes, once he works out in his mind what is 'right' and what is 'wrong' he sticks to it, so at the moment he's convinced that he believes in the institution of marriage, in a very traditional sense. But I'm taking things slowly and having gentle occasional conversations...
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    Why is living apart sometimes best for a marriage?

    Thank you Judge. I really appreciate your encouragement and recognition.
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    Why is living apart sometimes best for a marriage?

    Yes Rich Allen, that's what I feel. And we do 'quality time' together well, including time to talk through issues (we sit side by side in the car so that body language and facial expressions don't cause a problem), so it makes sense to me to work on those aspects of the marriage that are strong...
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    Why is living apart sometimes best for a marriage?

    Thank you Gracey. I think it will benefit us both, but he's not convinced. I get the impression that it's often AS people that want to live separately and NT people that don't understand the need!
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    Why is living apart sometimes best for a marriage?

    Without going into all my history here, this is a genuine request for help from AS and NT people alike. I am NT, and suggesting to my AS husband of decades that it would be beneficial to live separately for a while, talking on the phone or Skype most days, or messaging at least, spending quality...
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    Living apart as a couple?

    Hi Judge. Love your profile picture! Well, I'm NT, and I'm yearning for my AS husband to understand the need to live separately. And I also know a double-AS couple who've been happily married and have three happily married kids. I'm sure now you've got your diagnosis you're better placed to do...
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