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Recent content by margotk

  1. M

    Is he stringing me along or changing mind about feelings not unusual?

    Thank you so much for sharing your experiences, I really appreciate it. I totally agree that not only him but we both need to work on ourselves, but sadly I think that we need to be separate for that. This experience brought me happiness but also some scars that need to heal.
  2. M

    What is a healthy relationship anyways?

    Thank you so much :) I am really interested in that and the more I learn the more things I find to learn also. Which for me is a good thing:)
  3. M

    Is he stringing me along or changing mind about feelings not unusual?

    Yeah, the charm of a sociopath as my friend calls it. I now the term already because his behaviour was so erratic at times that I looked into narcissism, attachment theory etc. Intermittent reinforcement and trauma bond is real.
  4. M

    Is he stringing me along or changing mind about feelings not unusual?

    Who knows? Eh...
  5. M

    Is he stringing me along or changing mind about feelings not unusual?

    I think you are right. I have to distance myself from this situation and hope that he will figure out what he needs to feel happy. He is so awesome in so many ways and I wish he could see that. Thank you for taking the time.
  6. M

    What is a healthy relationship anyways?

    I am sorry to hear about your experience. Abuse and bullying and excruciating loneliness is heartbreaking. I can atest though that these types of experiences are something that many NTs face as well, but the world is a much friendlier place for them/us, so it can get a bit easier to deal with...
  7. M

    What is a healthy relationship anyways?

    You did not get too intense, not at all for me. For me it is always interesting getting to know different perspectives and perceptions. I have learned a lot here already:). Thank you for that.
  8. M

    What is a healthy relationship anyways?

    You are welcome and I hope I did not muddle things for you or anything. It is just my reflexion, others may have a different take on it.
  9. M

    What is a healthy relationship anyways?

    And just one more thing - being emotionally unavailable does not have to be a permanent thing. One can work through traumas and triggers in therapy or other ways that work for them and slowly open up themselves more. It is hard, but it is a journey and a choice at the end of the day.
  10. M

    What is a healthy relationship anyways?

    I am no expert by any means and I would never consider this term before you brought it up. But thinking about it, I would rather say thai identifying your emotions and emotions of others can be challenging to you. It does not mean you don't want to or are running away from it out of fear (which...
  11. M

    What is a healthy relationship anyways?

    I see that first part of my answer was published in the box just under your first question @Skittlebisquit. Sorry for that, I am writing on my mobile. It was your question about modeling and my reply: Yes, modeling but also sometimes operating on a pattern of what love should be like or feel...
  12. M

    What is a healthy relationship anyways?

    For me it is not the same as EQ.Somebody can possess emotional intelligence, understand other person's feelings but still be emotionally unavailable. Emotionally unavailable person (man or woman), often due to traumas or bad experiences, are closed off to closeness and vulnerability that is...
  13. M

    What is a healthy relationship anyways?

    For me personally it is important to understand to what type of personality/behaviour I am and was attracted in the past and understand why it did not work. It is especially important if I make the similar mistake time and time again and where is the root of it. It is most often than not...
  14. M

    Is he stringing me along or changing mind about feelings not unusual?

    Thank you, I will surely look into it!
  15. M

    Is he stringing me along or changing mind about feelings not unusual?

    Yeah, it is often the case. He is not a bad man, he went through a lot. But he needs to want to seek help himself. I am going back to therapy after this experience. But yeah, the quote is a heartbreaking truth.
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