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Recent content by lfields1

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    Long Term Relationships

    I think what is problematic with AS males is getting women using a NT persona. This is a problem, because when that mask slips (and it will) you are showing that women another person. She basically met your false public representative and that's not cool, because you gave her one picture then...
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    Curious if my boyfriend is an undiagnosed aspie

    He is exactly like you after intercourse. It's unbelievable. He may lay still and talk with me for a while sometimes, but I can tell he really just wants to get up and go back to working on his computer. It's rare that he goes to sleep before 1am most weeknights. This kind of behavior use to...
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    Curious if my boyfriend is an undiagnosed aspie

    Yeah, that's what I thought to after seeing the therapist. Perhaps I didn't provide enough information, I'm not sure at that time I suspected that he had AS. It was all very confusing in the beginning. Do you mind if I ask: Were you like this in terms of touching with all your other romantic...
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    Curious if my boyfriend is an undiagnosed aspie

    I already went to a mental health professional two years ago and told her about my boyfriend among other personal issues I was having that wasn't relationship related and she said he was 'selfish' and advised that I leave the relationship. o_O
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    Curious if my boyfriend is an undiagnosed aspie

    Thanks for the input, I'm strongly leaning towards him being Aspie as well. The more threads I read on this site, the more confirmation I get. Now, unfortunately, at this moment I highly doubt my boyfriend is up to doing any kind of self-test much less even bringing up the subject. :( In...
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    Curious if my boyfriend is an undiagnosed aspie

    As I've been reading through forum posts over the last couple of days. A lot of this is starting to make sense to me now. After reading similar threads and other threads in the relationship forum, I'm starting to feel 99.9% positive my assessment of him being an Aspie is spot-on. For example...
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    Curious if my boyfriend is an undiagnosed aspie

    I've read "Loving someone with Asperger's Syndrome: Understanding and Connecting with your Partner". Thank you for the additional resources, where can I purchase a copy of that audio book?
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    Curious if my boyfriend is an undiagnosed aspie

    Thanks for the encouragement. I love my guy so I'm going to try hard to work through those challenges. :-)
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    Curious if my boyfriend is an undiagnosed aspie

    I can't bring that subject up right now, but eventually it will happen.
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    Curious if my boyfriend is an undiagnosed aspie

    we are having our issues in the relationship and the main thing is the emotional awareness and time management as in making more time for me. I don't think those things are insurmountable, just need to find a way to draw his attention to these issues and find out what is reasonable and...
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    Curious if my boyfriend is an undiagnosed aspie

    The thing is I can not accept not having my emotional needs met in someway. I can not forsake my emotional needs because he doesn't 'get it'. NT women get those needs met directly from romantic relationships, so it's not something I can just accept and forsake like learning to accept someone...
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    Curious if my boyfriend is an undiagnosed aspie

    Yes, this explanation has helped. Seems like he equates coming home to his bedroom to a place where he can take off his mask and just relax and he needs times to be alone and process things. He does that a lot more frequently with us living together than when we lived separately. He told me...
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    Curious if my boyfriend is an undiagnosed aspie

    Thank you, thank you, thank you. Did not know all of that mental processing could be going on. Wow, it sounds extremely draining. He had to prepare for the semester to start back up today and he really didn't give me any time over the past 3 or 4 days. I knew classes were about to begin, he...
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    Curious if my boyfriend is an undiagnosed aspie

    He is not unemployed, he is working now and was only out of work for one semester. Got right back on his feet, had savings when he was out of work for 6 months and still paid his portion of the bills. He is moving to his own apartment in a few weeks. Please ask before you make statements...
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    Curious if my boyfriend is an undiagnosed aspie

    Thank you. Can you shed some light on why he may need so much time to himself when he gets home? I do know that he has to drive 90 minutes to work and back each day and he hates to be in traffic, absolutely ruins his mood especially with slow drivers and drivers that do stupid things on the...
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