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Recent content by KateDubs

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    Boyfriend w/Aspergers wanted 'open relationship'. Can you help me try to understand?

    Well, I deleted him from Facebook. Might not seem like a big deal but for some reason I was finding it really hard to do! Feel like a weight has been lifted. Neither of us ever really post anything either way - but it was more that every time I was on messenger I'd see him online and get a...
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    Boyfriend w/Aspergers wanted 'open relationship'. Can you help me try to understand?

    Also :) I just wanted to say thank you to everyone for your comforting replies and perspectives. Whether you realise it or not, your virtual support has meant a lot during a very tough week!
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    Boyfriend w/Aspergers wanted 'open relationship'. Can you help me try to understand?

    'This feels like the continuing path you're looking for.' Yes, I feel your post closely reflects what I'm feeling/what actions I think are the right ones to take next. And I agree he needs to feel the consequences - he didn't expect me to cut him off but he needed to see I am serious. In any...
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    Boyfriend w/Aspergers wanted 'open relationship'. Can you help me try to understand?

    Thanks @paloftoon ! I agree, he was very smitten before he left. Then his mind 'swayed' as you put it, as he is certainly too young to be settling down etc (the ONLY strange thing about this is he continued asking to me to move out there over Skype/call for hours on end right up to the visit...
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    Boyfriend w/Aspergers wanted 'open relationship'. Can you help me try to understand?

    Your post is very, very true! I do think he could become more messy before he gets better. Telling me is now 'friends' with other people in open relationships like it put the idea into his head. My friends are usually monogamous, committed sorts of people and I'd rather be aligned with them...
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    Boyfriend w/Aspergers wanted 'open relationship'. Can you help me try to understand?

    Of course @tree. Romantically, he has been a big disappointment. I want/need someone that will be devoted to me only. I'd be curious to see how many women he *actually* finds that are willing to accept an open relationship. I think most of us want one person to love and vice versa.
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    Boyfriend w/Aspergers wanted 'open relationship'. Can you help me try to understand?

    I am going to delete him from social media and take time out for myself. I will probably wait longer than a month, possibly as long as 6 months, if I decide to get in contact. Regardless of his feelings (or lack of feelings towards me), I don't wish to pursue anything romantic with him. The...
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    Boyfriend w/Aspergers wanted 'open relationship'. Can you help me try to understand?

    Tell me this. If he was 'no longer into me', why:- - suggest an open relationship at all (rather than just break up?) - behave so enamoured up until the last moment. By this I mean, he was openly cuddling and kissing me, whispering sweet nothings, holding my hand, an hour before asking for the...
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    Boyfriend w/Aspergers wanted 'open relationship'. Can you help me try to understand?

    What would repulse you Rexi - the fact he suggested an open relationship? I meant to say RE this date he went on - he said at first he thought it was just two friends catching up, it was only when she contacted him afterwards that it became clear what her intentions were. Obviously he was...
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    Boyfriend w/Aspergers wanted 'open relationship'. Can you help me try to understand?

    He doesn't seem to connect long-term with anyone that isn't family. Before he left this city where I'm living, and where we met, he said I was the ONLY thing he would miss. He was born there and lived here his whole life? He even said that he often regretfully loses touch with people because he...
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    Boyfriend w/Aspergers wanted 'open relationship'. Can you help me try to understand?

    Thanks for your post. Yes, it's all true that this was his first real relationship - but remember, just as things were getting serious, he informed me it wasn't a proper relationship after all, oh AND, he'd been on a date. He verbally said he didn't want a relationship, although his actions had...
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    Boyfriend w/Aspergers wanted 'open relationship'. Can you help me try to understand?

    I connect to what you have said a lot here. It was strange because I had some of the most romantic times of my life with him. But then during the trip he said something about how he could appreciate romantic in other peoples lives...just not his own (which was a really weird thing to say...
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    Boyfriend w/Aspergers wanted 'open relationship'. Can you help me try to understand?

    Well, I have broken it off with him and asked him not to contact me. For exactly the reasons you state: for hurting me & treating me disrespectfully. The only thing that has shifted my mindset slightly over the past day or so is realising that I didn't really want him as a serious partner...
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    Boyfriend w/Aspergers wanted 'open relationship'. Can you help me try to understand?

    I have done a lot of thinking today about this situation - a week has passed and I've been reflecting on the trip. I've realised that I would have probably ended up breaking it off, as his behaviours on the trip were getting on my nerves: - I have learned to be in the moment a lot more lately...
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    Boyfriend w/Aspergers wanted 'open relationship'. Can you help me try to understand?

    @Kalinychta - well, I think I deserve a little credit here! I told him 'no' & have been no contact since (6 days ago). Also I don't think it's fair he only wants me around when he feels like it. He was always supportive & available when I needed him (I've been through some hard times in recent...
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