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Recent content by Jorjor23

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    He thinks I was trying to hurt him...

    Thanks to everyone who contributed in a productive way.
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    He thinks I was trying to hurt him...

    Yeah, I guess I'm just trying to gauge his trajectory. I met him during a stressful and transitional time in his life and it hasn't been long. I am curious to see if it tapers off once he gets more stable ( long term apartment, a car, get back the thousand dollars his friend/roomie owes him, and...
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    He thinks I was trying to hurt him...

    Thank you for not blowing up on me. He just moved here(L.A) from NY on a whim. L.A is a pain to navigate without a car. He makes a good salary working in tech so I feel like there was a lack of foresight in not straightening out the car situation beforehand. This city is well known for it's...
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    He thinks I was trying to hurt him...

    You're missing the point on purpose... He didn't take Xanax that night. I'm talking about in general. After a night of doing coke he'll typically take xanax during the DAY and sleep through the entire day. But thanks for faking a lack of reading comp to further demonize me. As ar as self...
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    He thinks I was trying to hurt him...

    Partake in what? I don't do drugs outside of occasional weed....And how does that automatically equal stupidity. That's a black and white way of looking at it.
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    He thinks I was trying to hurt him...

    I realize I've left out really pertinent info. I didn't want to immediately just volunteer the drug thing but it's becoming apparent that it's necessary to mention to give you guys the full picture.
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    He thinks I was trying to hurt him...

    Yeah. I come from a pretty bleached background so I try not to be overly judgmental, but when it affects our relationship it becomes a bit of an issue. Oftentimes he'll stay up all night because he did coke, then in order to "correct" this he'll take a xanax and knock out for the whole day. Then...
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    He thinks I was trying to hurt him...

    Honestly he was much better about this in the beginning, but the stress is getting to him and he doesn't handle it that well now. He see's me as being overly dramatic because I cry, therefore he see's himself as "walking on eggshells" when I feel similarly about his reactions to my emotions. I...
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    He thinks I was trying to hurt him...

    I have no issues with how he processes emotion on a surface level... the problem is, he mutes me for having them and gets annoyed when I cry, for example... he has maladaptive coping mechanism (i.e., excessive drug use) and that makes me wonder if he's processing his own emotions in a way that's...
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    He thinks I was trying to hurt him...

    Ok lady...With all due respect, you need to take several steps back before making wild assumptions based off a post online. First off, I haven't known him long (just a couple months). At this stage in the relationship, I'm doing a lot. I was agitated in this particular situation because I was...
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    He thinks I was trying to hurt him...

    Quick clarification, he unfortunately, didn't ask me to run the errand until midnight, and I went right away b/c I didn't want him to suffer through the night I think a lot of this was knee jerk responses on my part due to past experiences. Earlier in the year I was in a verbally abusive...
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    He thinks I was trying to hurt him...

    Ok, thanks. Spelling it out that clearly seems so granular to me relative to the convert ways in which us NT's communicate. I'll think I've spelled out something clearly when I really haven't broken it down to it's simplest form. I think it's something I'll have to train myself into. I guess...
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    He thinks I was trying to hurt him...

    There are a couple recurring issues 1. He diverts the convo when I try to tell him about my past because he thinks it's irrelevant to the current me. Some major things have happened to me lately and I feel like I should be able to tell my SO these things... I get the sense that he feels like me...
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    He thinks I was trying to hurt him...

    Fino, as far as the invisible signals go. Should I spell it out more clearly (for example "can you please tell me thank you when I go out of my way to get you stuff?" or should I just drop it altogether...
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    He thinks I was trying to hurt him...

    So would it be preferable to wait till he's "resurfaced" in terms of being a bit more receptive? Sometimes I feel like certain problems are off limits to discuss regardless of context.
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