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Recent content by imissmyaspieman

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    Devastating breakup - Did he hide the Asperger's?

    Thank you for that. I'm glad I presented the question here because I otherwise wouldn't have known it was that bad of an idea. I definitely do NOT want to make the situation worse.
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    Devastating breakup - Did he hide the Asperger's?

    I have been rejected before and don't think it's a pride issue at all for me. I thought I was going to marry him. Our chemistry and compatibility was on point. I finally found my forever person and thought the natural progression was to merge our lives and I was excited for that to start...
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    Devastating breakup - Did he hide the Asperger's?

    Do you think it’s possible for a couple where one is on the spectrum and one is NT to truly give each other what they need OR is it a futile cause where both are actors who are growing resentment that’ll eventually implode?
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    Devastating breakup - Did he hide the Asperger's?

    I understand what you are saying. I do wonder if we got back together if I would hold a resentment for all the pain or be walking on eggshells because the relationship is emotionally dangerous... and then he'd just leave me all over again or I leave him. However, I also wouldn't go back to the...
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    Devastating breakup - Did he hide the Asperger's?

    I'm not hurt by you saying this at all... I truly appreciate your insight. I do recognize that my appraisal of the situation is coming from my perspective. You are correct that he did not express if he had doubts, ever. Although we were very compatible, it's now blatantly obvious he had doubts...
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    Devastating breakup - Did he hide the Asperger's?

    I'm sorry that happened to you. It truly is torture to be dumped and blind sighted by a partner. Ugh.
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    Devastating breakup - Did he hide the Asperger's?

    When you say an indirect approach… is there an example of what would be? Do I get billboards made, “10 signs you’re definitely on the spectrum?” Jkjk. I wish I could just tell him but I don’t feel entitled to do so nor am I technically in his life :( I also have enough respect for him that I...
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    Devastating breakup - Did he hide the Asperger's?

    This is very helpful. I think he knew me well enough (better than anyone, really) to know I don’t hold stereotype driven views. He also knew that I have a handful of people in my family that are autistic and knew I preferred being around them and their brilliant kookiness above most other...
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    Devastating breakup - Did he hide the Asperger's?

    Thank you for this and hugs back to you and Dog V4. Do you have any tips about how to suggest/hint to him that he has Asperger’s, assuming he doesn’t know? Just writing that makes me want to blurt out, “how on earth could you *not* know just by being in your job. Im pretty sure having...
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    Devastating breakup - Did he hide the Asperger's?

    I am new to the forum and looking for advice about how to manage a devasting breakup that happened almost 5 months ago. Of course, it happened unexpectedly and coldly and he never spoke to me again - after a year and half of being completely happy together. I told him upfront on our first date...
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