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Recent content by hollyofthenorth

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    My Aspergers boyfriend broke up with me... but he still wants me around

    I am very much aware of how I am in relationships- I am not the kind of person to stick for someone who treats me badly. I have dealt with my fair share and so I have experienced knowing how to pick out the the bad from the good. I’m not worried I don’t have other options or whatever, either. I...
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    My Aspergers boyfriend broke up with me... but he still wants me around

    Also- when I try to take the same approach your husband made, he doesn’t respond well to it... he really doesn’t accept or recognise what his Aspergers does to him. Is this normal?
  3. hollyofthenorth

    My Aspergers boyfriend broke up with me... but he still wants me around

    Thank you for this- I have always tried to keep things simple with him. I don’t say too much when we are having a discussion because he doesn’t process it very well. He has been away for the last 5 days, so we have had some distance from each other and I have actually pulled away quite a bit...
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    My Aspergers boyfriend broke up with me... but he still wants me around

    My impressions are that he is responding this way simply out of fear. He has never had feelings for a person this way before and it scares him and he doesn’t know how to handle it. But as much as I’m willing to be there for him and to kind of navigate and teach him, what do I do if he isn’t...
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    My Aspergers boyfriend broke up with me... but he still wants me around

    Yeah basically. He's more able to listen to me when he's calm, but I can't do anything when he's having one of his episodes. He is very static with his feelings, especially right now. Since I posted my situation, more has developed which has left me more confused.
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    My Aspergers boyfriend broke up with me... but he still wants me around

    His problem is that he just sees things from his perspective and no other perspective is correct in that moment. It's not until he is calmer that he thinks more rationally. When he get's like that, I normally just sit and listen and accept it for what it is and wait until he calms down.
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    My Aspergers boyfriend broke up with me... but he still wants me around

    Wow I really feel like that was what I needed to hear. I have felt that too and it's the impressions I have been getting from how he has been over the last few weeks even before we broke up... For him, he has had to deal with me moving to Denmark where he is from, the start of our relationship...
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    My Aspergers boyfriend broke up with me... but he still wants me around

    Thank you for your comment. I really have tried to be understanding of him having Aspergers and that is why I have always given him his space when he's asked for it and never pressured him with anything, because he doesn't respond well to it... He does give me recognition for my efforts, quite...
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    My Aspergers boyfriend broke up with me... but he still wants me around

    I do try to give him as much space as possible. We have tried so many times to just see each other like twice a week or something, but then something comes up and we see each other more.. sometimes it's me and sometimes it's him. It just happens...
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    My Aspergers boyfriend broke up with me... but he still wants me around

    We actually haven't had sex. We believe in no sex before marriage because of our faith, so it isn't a reason..
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    My Aspergers boyfriend broke up with me... but he still wants me around

    So I actually give him a lot of space- I rarely see him and I never argue- he just switches from being fine one minute and then mad the next for no reason at all. He always starts to arguments, not me, I just sit there and take what he throws at me... and when he calms down he then contradicts...
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    My Aspergers boyfriend broke up with me... but he still wants me around

    Thank you for your comments, it really helped. What's interesting is that all of this first started when his exam was approaching- he gets stressed very easily, sets high expectations on himself and has always overthought everything. Relationships have never worked out for him and he expressed...
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    My Aspergers boyfriend broke up with me... but he still wants me around

    Hi... I am new to this site and in desperate need of advise from an Aspergers perspective. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months- for the last month or so things have been quite difficult with us. There have been a lot of disagreements and there has been a lot of contention. He has...
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