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Recent content by FeatherBird

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    Do you have a partner?

    Even though I'm not the OP, I'm going to chime in on the topic. Back in college, any time I wasn't at school, I pretty much just holed up at home. I was boring in college. I'm way more interesting of a person now (for example, I travel several times per year). Yet I got more dates in one year...
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    Do you have a partner?

    I've been told similar stuff before (others are flabbergasted by the fact I've been on hardly any dates in the past decade) Their words are (ultimately) meaningless. If we really were as much of a catch as these people claim we are, we would have gotten scooped up by a long-term partner by now.
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    Do you have a partner?

    I've read enough online communities to know some posters will judge you (and even blame you) for your struggle. Anyone who judges/blames you, however, obviously has no idea what it's like to be in your shoes (and couldn't handle trading places with you for even a month, let alone a lifetime)
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    Why Men Are Walking Away From Dating

    I've never been to Oz (so take what I'm about to say with a grain of salt). As far as the Anglosphere goes, I've heard the American/Canadian woman is the most reluctant to make the first move (while a woman in England/Scotland/Australia is comparatively more likely to make the first move) I'm a...
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    Why Men Are Walking Away From Dating

    Being an Aussie might have played a role too.
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    Why Men Are Walking Away From Dating

    Based on chatting with (and reading discussions by) female autists online, they appear to be even less likely to make the first move than a neurotypical woman. Which makes sense. Seeing as a woman making the first move is rare even in the NT community, it's to be expected a socially stunted...
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    Why Men Are Walking Away From Dating

    Well-said. No matter how clear a woman’s romantic intentions might appear, my fear of turning out to be wrong stops me from acting on her romantic cues.
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    Why Men Are Walking Away From Dating

    Your experience is a lot different than mine. I was viewed as a pariah in school.
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    Why Men Are Walking Away From Dating

    We don't have the same sensibilities, you're right. But we live in a neurotypical world. That's why we fail. Hell, even in the autistic community, the same neurotypical norm holds true (where the man is expected to make the first move)
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    Why Men Are Walking Away From Dating

    I don't like how some posters have a free pass to disrespect/vilify men who struggle romantically, yet if we so much as cite a study that shows male autists are far more likely than female autists to be single, we're viewed as pot-stirrers trying to start a contest of who has it worse. Umm...
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    Why Men Are Walking Away From Dating

    Since media was your only glimpse into American culture as a kid, I totally get why media shaped your perception of American culture. On a related note, I've been called stupid before because when I was in high school, I thought college movies were how college really was. How was I supposed to...
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    Why Men Are Walking Away From Dating

    The single community includes those who are single by choice  and those who are single because they're unable to get a partner (there are a number of reasons one might be unable to get a partner by the way; it doesn't necessarily mean the individual is undesirable) The ones who are unable to...
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    Why Men Are Walking Away From Dating

    I've said before that I'd rather date a woman with average looks than a knockout. Because the knockout would have no incentive to stay with me, as she'd be able to get any man at any second. I know it might sound sad that I'm not even acknowledging the possibility that maybe the knockout would...
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    Why Men Are Walking Away From Dating

    You're right, if a man struggles to read hints/flirts (which, for obvious reasons, autistic men struggle with), he'll have a hard time in the dating marketplace. And no, by saying this, I'm not "trying to start a contest of which gender has it worse." All I'm doing is stating a fact. As a male...
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    Why Men Are Walking Away From Dating

    Well-said. I'd like something meaningful/deeper in a relationship. But if I'm unable to get a relationship, porn is at least better than nothing (a consolation prize, as you put it)
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