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Recent content by FeatherBird

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    "Rejection is part of life"

    I've had some degree of success (I will spare the details on the forum) with an 8/10 (back in 2021). An 8/10 is out of my league. Yet I've been turned down by many with worse looks than 8/10. Go figure.
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    In my case, it doesn't help that I'm a lot more comfortable asking out a total stranger than asking out a woman I actually know.
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    Fair enough. The first thing that popped into my head was that perhaps "wrong" means going for those who are out of your league.
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    Right, I'm not interested in procreation. My parameters have changed through the years. I believe we've discussed it before.
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    "Wrong" type of romantic interests is a subjective term. With the rate at which I've been rejected, however, I suppose some might say I have a track record of targeting the "wrong" type of romantic interests.
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    The fact every girl I expressed interest in when I was in middle school/high school didn't reciprocate could explain why rejection stings as an adult.
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    I've been approached before. It just happens extremely infrequently.
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    I went to an organized singles event this weekend. I'm willing to put myself in positions to potentially date (and potentially get rejected by) a woman...but only if I'm unlikely to run into her again after a possible rejection (so tenants, if I had any, would be out of the question) That...
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    No, I wouldn't say I have RSD. Because I only fear a specific type of rejection: A rejection from a woman I actually know. I have no problem with getting rejected by a woman I don't know. I'd rather get rejected 100 times by those I don't know than even once by a woman I know.
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    I'm not even willing to put myself in a position where a woman I need to cross paths with again turns down a mere coffee invite. I cannot face a woman I got turned down by. I seriously haven't asked out a woman I had reason to believe I'd cross paths with again since 2012. Since then, it's...
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    With all due respect, your post sounds somewhat contradictory. On one hand, you make it sound like my high failure rate at closing means I'm somehow doing something wrong. Yet then you also say there are a lot of deliberate false signals. It could totally be that I'm doing something wrong, I...
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    I have a decent amount of experience asking out the opposite sex based on (what I thought were) clues. Nearly every time, I turned out to be wrong about the (apparently meaningless) clues. So I have valid reason to distrust my ability to gauge a woman's interest level. I've heard others say...
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    I suppose I could always ask a woman out after a flirt session to get my answer to the question of whether she'd like me to ask her out. I can't bring myself to though. If it turned out the woman wasn't looking to be asked out, I'd blame my autism for the misreading on my part (and I'm...
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    I'm somewhat decent at flirting (even if not as good as a neurotypical) My bigger problem is I don't know how to take it to the next level. One thing that would make it a lot easier for me is if a woman had an interactive screen above her head that told me: Is she looking for me to ask her...
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    I've taken ownership of my agency by making a key change to my approach: I quit asking out members of the opposite sex I actually know. I haven't asked out a woman I know since 2012. Every move I've made since then has been on a woman I don't know. Because that's easier for me than asking out...
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