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Recent content by FeatherBird

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    "Rejection is part of life"

    I've been approached before. It just happens extremely infrequently.
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    I went to an organized singles event this weekend. I'm willing to put myself in positions to potentially date (and potentially get rejected by) a woman...but only if I'm unlikely to run into her again after a possible rejection (so tenants, if I had any, would be out of the question) That...
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    No, I wouldn't say I have RSD. Because I only fear a specific type of rejection: A rejection from a woman I actually know. I have no problem with getting rejected by a woman I don't know. I'd rather get rejected 100 times by those I don't know than even once by a woman I know.
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    I'm not even willing to put myself in a position where a woman I need to cross paths with again turns down a mere coffee invite. I cannot face a woman I got turned down by. I seriously haven't asked out a woman I had reason to believe I'd cross paths with again since 2012. Since then, it's...
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    With all due respect, your post sounds somewhat contradictory. On one hand, you make it sound like my high failure rate at closing means I'm somehow doing something wrong. Yet then you also say there are a lot of deliberate false signals. It could totally be that I'm doing something wrong, I...
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    I have a decent amount of experience asking out the opposite sex based on (what I thought were) clues. Nearly every time, I turned out to be wrong about the (apparently meaningless) clues. So I have valid reason to distrust my ability to gauge a woman's interest level. I've heard others say...
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    I suppose I could always ask a woman out after a flirt session to get my answer to the question of whether she'd like me to ask her out. I can't bring myself to though. If it turned out the woman wasn't looking to be asked out, I'd blame my autism for the misreading on my part (and I'm...
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    I'm somewhat decent at flirting (even if not as good as a neurotypical) My bigger problem is I don't know how to take it to the next level. One thing that would make it a lot easier for me is if a woman had an interactive screen above her head that told me: Is she looking for me to ask her...
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    I've taken ownership of my agency by making a key change to my approach: I quit asking out members of the opposite sex I actually know. I haven't asked out a woman I know since 2012. Every move I've made since then has been on a woman I don't know. Because that's easier for me than asking out...
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    Everyone's mileage is different. I've certainly heard the school of thought that getting rejected a lot is how to overcome a fear of rejection. That hasn't been the case for me. Getting rejected a lot is how I ended up hating rejection.
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    Flirting is tricky territory. Here's why: Even if I pick up on flirting, there's still the question of what I'm supposed to do about the flirting. Is the woman looking for me to invite her to my bedroom? Is the woman looking for me to ask her out on a simple date? Or does the woman just want...
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    In response to your comment about how we give rejections we maybe aren't aware of: There have probably been times where a woman felt rejected because I wasn't acting on her clues. Little did she know, chances are it's not that I didn't want to act on her clues. It's that I was terrified to...
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    I'm on a bus to work right now. Even if I was interested in getting a workout regimen, I wouldn't be able to work out right this second. I've heard what you're saying before ("If you have time to post, you have time to work out")...never mind the fact a majority of my posting doesn't even take...
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    On a note that's somewhat related to the topic of the thread, another thing I hate is when I (or others) get called entitled for merely venting about having bad luck romantically. I can only speak for myself...but the last thing I'd want is for an uninterested party to be forced into being with...
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    "Rejection is part of life"

    This isn't the first time I've been told to work out (although I must say: I'm shocked to hear it on an autism forum of all places) Being autistic, normal daily life exhausts me to a degree unimaginable to neurotypicals. I don't have the energy to work out.
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