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Recent content by Dianafrances

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    I Need Help and Comfort Please

    I want to thank you for all of your time trying to help me evaluate what is happening for Brian, and if I have any hope that he will want to stay together, which is what I would like. I am emotionally distraught and have apologized to him for my role in upsetting him and doing so in a way that...
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    I Need Help and Comfort Please

    Hi. Yes, he is committed and is the one that first wanted to enter a relationship. He asked me to love him, and I did. We will have been together for 7 years in July. Until I got ill, it was mainly very good. I did not make a commitment of 26k to him. When he had his car accident, he shut down...
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    I Need Help and Comfort Please

    I need to clarify, we are not married. We are in a committed monogamous relationship. I have to agree that what love means to him is very different than what love means to me. You are right, he was very happy and content when things were going well, I could race and sail, travel, do lots of...
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    I Need Help and Comfort Please

    Hi. You are so correct that is very hard to put so much into one thread. We were living together in MD where we both race sailboats. He and I became a team and we crew on a large boat and also race a one design boat of our own. When I became ill, I did not want to burden him, I was frightened...
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    I Need Help and Comfort Please

    I often wonder if this isn't partially on purpose. There is a big race coming up that he is crewing on. They are racing from Annapolis to Bermuda. The plans were if I was well enough, I would fly to Bermuda to meet the boat as they came in. I wonder if he isn't doing this silent treatment so I...
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    I Need Help and Comfort Please

    Hi. I only wish he would agree to see me. We are a 1000 miles apart and I am not well enough to travel to confront him face to face. Right now, I am at his mercy. He did begin initiating a few texts this past Thursday (while I was in my first meeting with the therapist his first text came in!)...
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    I Need Help and Comfort Please

    You are absolutely correct. Somehow my release of frustrations in a burst of anger via text, really upset him deeply to the point of shutting down for a few days, and still is unable to talk to me. Thursday (one week after the blow up) he initiated the first text after I had fallen silent for...
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    I Need Help and Comfort Please

    Thank you for your words of strength. They are much much needed. I have begun seeing a therapist this past Thursday. I need help coping. Brian is sending a text or two a day but still no ability to talk to me. I can't and won't go on like this for much longer and your advice is sound and strong.
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    I Need Help and Comfort Please

    I really appreciate your thoughts. You are so right, mold is serious business and I am not only concerned for my health, but for HIS! You can see it growing everywhere. A couple of years ago he bought a new furnace and air conditioning system. He tore out the old one, but NEVER installed the new...
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    I Need Help and Comfort Please

    Hi Tom. Thank you for the thoughts. There are definitely interpersonal issues here, and I being an NT am emotionally and logically expressing as an NT, forgetting that he takes things literally. But at the same time, I don't see how he can say he loves me and still speak to me with such...
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    I Need Help and Comfort Please

    Hi Suzanne, Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Since Saturday he has replied in one sentence texts. Today's reply told me he could not get out of bed Thursday through Saturday (missed 2 days work) and only sailing got him out on Sunday. I think he is at work today but cannot tell. He has...
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    I Need Help and Comfort Please

    It sure does feel cruel. The past three days has not been the total shut out. He replies with a one sentence text. This morning's replies informed me he could not get out of bed Thursday through Saturday and only sailing on Sunday got him out of bed. He missed work for two days and now I hurt...
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    I Need Help and Comfort Please

    Thank you for your reply, suggestions and kind words. I texted him this morning and he replied he had not gotten out of bed Thursday thru Saturday and only got out of bed to go sailing on Sunday. It now hurts me deeply that my outburst of frustration and anger has hurt him so badly that he shut...
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    I Need Help and Comfort Please

    Hi. Thank you for your reply. I appreciate your thoughts very much. I have been texting him once a day and he does reply with one sentence responses. He replied this morning that he could not get out of bed on Thursday (my angry outburst was Wed night) through Saturday, and only sailing got him...
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    I Need Help and Comfort Please

    Hi, thank you very much for your thoughts and advice. I texted him this morning and he replied he could not get out of bed Thursday, Friday or Saturday and sailing got him out on Sunday. He missed work those days. Now I feel horrible that I my NT outburst of frustration and anger at being talked...
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