Marcus
Star Wars enthusiast
Anyone else ever hear this?
I had a deep conversation with a close family member about the possible reasons as to why it's hard for me to make friendships, let alone keep them.
One of the main things I was told is exactly what the title says "You don't tell people enough about yourself for them to truly get to know you."
Whenever I find a potential friend, I'm very hesitant to tell them more about myself than my name and a few answers to questions they might ask.
I don't want to tell them too much, not only because of the flood of information, but I don't want to immediately drive them off either.
I've learned not to bring any interests up anymore unless asked because I can go on for days about my special interests and keep the conversation one sided to the point to where they'll think I don't care about them.
But, since I don't give out a ton of information, I seem to lose those opportunities for friendship quicker and more often than usual.
It seems like if I give out a ton of information and we click on some subjects, that could either turn into a friendship, or just be a temporary talk, and if I don't give out that much information, they either think I'm hiding something or I'm "creepy."
I don't really know what to do, I mean, I ask them about their interests and things just to find out more about them and usually they'll say "I'm not comfortable enough with you to talk about that" so in my eyes, that destroys the opportunity for friendship right there, apparently I'm not the only one that does this, but I still think I'm the worst at it.
I had a deep conversation with a close family member about the possible reasons as to why it's hard for me to make friendships, let alone keep them.
One of the main things I was told is exactly what the title says "You don't tell people enough about yourself for them to truly get to know you."
Whenever I find a potential friend, I'm very hesitant to tell them more about myself than my name and a few answers to questions they might ask.
I don't want to tell them too much, not only because of the flood of information, but I don't want to immediately drive them off either.
I've learned not to bring any interests up anymore unless asked because I can go on for days about my special interests and keep the conversation one sided to the point to where they'll think I don't care about them.
But, since I don't give out a ton of information, I seem to lose those opportunities for friendship quicker and more often than usual.
It seems like if I give out a ton of information and we click on some subjects, that could either turn into a friendship, or just be a temporary talk, and if I don't give out that much information, they either think I'm hiding something or I'm "creepy."
I don't really know what to do, I mean, I ask them about their interests and things just to find out more about them and usually they'll say "I'm not comfortable enough with you to talk about that" so in my eyes, that destroys the opportunity for friendship right there, apparently I'm not the only one that does this, but I still think I'm the worst at it.