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Worried about my grandson

Discussion in 'Introduce Yourself' started by Wren, Jul 14, 2019 at 10:37 AM.

  1. Wren

    Wren New Member

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    Hi. I’m from a family littered with high-functioning autism and am probably there myself, although I prefer to think of myself as just an introvert. I have an autistic grandson, diagnosed at two, now six years old. He has been receiving intensive therapy since his diagnosis. In recent months, he seems to have been regressing. He was once reasonably potty trained, but now isn’t. He no longer seems able to eat with utensils. His already limited speech seems to have become endlessly repeating phrases like some kind of ear worm. He’s not playing as much as he was.

    The thing is, I think I’m the only one noticing. When I bring it up to a parent or therapist, I get, “Oh, he’s just having a bad day,” or “He’s just doing it for attention.” I see him only every couple of weeks, so maybe this is more obvious to me than those that see him every day.

    I’m worried.
     
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    Bolletje Potato chip wizard V.I.P Member

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    Welcome! I’m not a parent, so I can’t give advice there, but there are plenty of parents on this site :)
     
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    Hello @Wren :)

    it's a tricky one isn't it?

    I believe endlessly repeating phrases is quite usual.
    if he's using it as a stim,
    stims are thought to be used as a means of soothing.

    so if he's repeating phrases as a means of soothing,
    look for the reason behind it.

    what's changed; if anything, for him in the recent months you've noticed a difference?
    school? home?parents?grandparents?expectations?routines? fed up with intensive therapy?
    Anything come to mind?

    if those with him everyday believe he's doing okay, other than what you've written above,
    what is it specifically that's worrying you?

    Could he let you know if he's unhappy?
    Do you talk to him or ask him?
     
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    It's possible he is having an "Off" day but the "He is just doing it for attention" is usually a sign of an off day as it is most likely a sign of emotional or sensory overload and the fact that most people I have interacted with that are on the spectrum don't care for attention being focused solely on them and would not want the extra attention. I can't speak for others as every person on the spectrum has a different set of difficulties to deal with. Good luck and I hope you find the answers you are seeking.
     
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    Welcome, Wren. I am wondering, how many off days is your grandson having? And if he is regularly or always having an off day when you see him, could it be that it is because he is reacting to your presence? Maybe he is excited to see you, or otherwise notices a change in his world when you are there and this is how he reacts to that?

    Another thought that comes to mind when you say you are worried is this: do you trust your grandson's parents, therapists and doctors to have his best interests at heart? Do you feel they want to do as much as they can to give him the best opportunities and life possible?
     
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    Hi @Wren welcome you to the forum. I'm sure you'll gain advice and support here.
     
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    SusanLR Well-Known Member

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    Welcome Wren to the forums.

    I never had family or chilldren, but, I am one of those odd ones who have a memory that goes back to
    infancy.
    Reading :
    I would ask if he seems to have these "off" days when you visit.
    If you are not a part of his daily routine then you would feel like a visitor.
    And I remember I did not react well to visitors.
    I would tend to shut down, have selective mutism, and go to my room.
     
  12. Wren

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    It is possible that he doesn’t do well just when he’s visiting me, but I know he’s having potty issues at home, too. I keep thinking of things he used to do that he no longer does—he used to sing songs, he used to be able to name colors and shapes. I know autistic kids often regress, but still...