Work experience

[As sweet as-pie]

Hi all,

I'm at college and work experience is compulsary. It's in june for a week. I've been emailing places for ages now. 40 in total. I finally found a placement but I need to go in for a DBS check on tuesday and I don't think I can.

I'm "high functioning" but theres like nothing I can do without support. How am I supposed to go somewhere I've never been before and ask someone I've never met before if I can talk to someone else I've never met before. I can't do it... I can't even go to the kinda-interview so how am I supposed to work there?

I'm the top of my class so it's even more annoying that if I don't do this, I fail my course.

I feel so useless, I can't do anything I wanna do. I tried to volunteer like a year ago and just couldn't bring myself to. I feel awful because they really tried to accommodate me but I just wasted their time.

I doubt this place would accommodate my needs because it'd just be a hassle for them and I'm the one seeking a placement, they don't need staff. It's in a care environment too and loads of people think that if you need support, you can't support others. It's not true but a lot of people think it.

I have no chance.

 

[the_tortoise]

Can you script it? Literally script every word (make it like a flow chart with "if person says [x] i say [....]"?)?

Could you have someone help you get there and just not go into the kinda-interview part with you?

What would be the worst thing that would happen if you went there, or tried to go there? Is there anything to lose by trying and failing or having them reject you?

 

[Mr Allen]

DBS checks (formerly known as CRB) are literally a cakewalk mate, if you have never been in trouble with the Coppers, you'll pass a check with no problems, and even if you've been in minor bother, it's not usually a big issue if you declare it.

I've passed several including when I worked for South Yorkshire Police up to about 2 and half years ago.

 

[As sweet as-pie]

Can you script it? Literally script every word (make it like a flow chart with "if person says [x] i say [....]"?)?

Could you have someone help you get there and just not go into the kinda-interview part with you?

What would be the worst thing that would happen if you went there, or tried to go there? Is there anything to lose by trying and failing or having them reject you?

I tried this once, I still couldn't go. But it's a good idea and I'll try it again. Thanks

 

[As sweet as-pie]

DBS checks (formerly known as CRB) are literally a cakewalk mate, if you have never been in trouble with the Coppers, you'll pass a check with no problems, and even if you've been in minor bother, it's not usually a big issue if you declare it.

I've passed several including when I worked for South Yorkshire Police up to about 2 and half years ago.

Not worried about the DBS itself, more the new place and having to socialise with people I've never met before. I struggle to talk for myself and tbh I have no idea what to say or do.

 

[Bolletje]

Not worried about the DBS itself, more the new place and having to socialise with people I've never met before. I struggle to talk for myself and tbh I have no idea what to say or do.

It’s not really socializing when you’re there for business though. Plan the route, study the building on google maps if possible, make a script, follow it and go back home.

 

[As sweet as-pie]

It’s not really socializing when you’re there for business though. Plan the route, study the building on google maps if possible, make a script, follow it and go back home.

By socialising I just mean.... the act of interacting with another human being. Hell, if I even accidentally make eye contact with someone when driving past them I think about it for about 8 months.

 

[Tom]

If you want to accomplish certain goals you have to stop thinking about what you don't like to do and start thinking about how you are going to buck up and do them.

 

[As sweet as-pie]

If you want to accomplish certain goals you have to stop thinking about what you don't like to do and start thinking about how you are going to buck up and do them.

Sounds like that quote.... "the only disability in life is a bad attitude" I must kindly disagree with you. There's a difference between not wanting to do something and being unable to. I didn't go to college for 2 years and I wouldn't be there now if it weren't for having support in place. You can do a lot more when you accept your limitations, it's true.

 

[55853]

Maybe list the reasons you can't do these things. What exactly is it that's stopping you? If you can identify what it is, you can try to work on it. What's impossible now may be possible later on. It's something I'm personally doing, although in my case it's from not having support.

 

[As sweet as-pie]

Maybe list the reasons you can't do these things. What exactly is it that's stopping you? If you can identify what it is, you can try to work on it. What's impossible now may be possible later on. It's something I'm personally doing, although in my case it's from not having support.

I just can't go to places I've never been before without visualising them fully and knowing what they look like. That's my main issue. Even with support it's really hard, but there's no way I could do it alone. I can't talk for myself either, I just never know what to say and often become mute.

 

[Bolletje]

Well, in that case, might as well resign yourself to the fact that this isn’t happening.

 

[As sweet as-pie]

Well, in that case, might as well resign yourself to the fact that this isn’t happening.

Yeah.. I was just hoping maybe someone could offer me advice since we're all in a similar boat before I accept that I'm going to have to drop out and live with my parents for the rest of my life, lol. But thanks for your input.

 

[Bolletje]

Yeah.. I was just hoping maybe someone could offer me advice since we're all in a similar boat before I accept that I'm going to have to drop out and live with my parents for the rest of my life, lol. But thanks for your input.

Well, you seem rather resistant to advice. I’m rooting for you as much as anyone else on here, but if every bit of advice is shot down, I guess it’s not going to work.

 

[As sweet as-pie]

Well, you seem rather resistant to advice. I’m rooting for you as much as anyone else on here, but if every bit of advice is shot down, I guess it’s not going to work.

I'm confused... you didn't give me any advice. You told me to accept that I can't do it?

 

[Bolletje]

I'm confused... you didn't give me any advice. You told me to accept that I can't do it?

I actually gave you advice about planning ahead, making a script, checking out the route and checking out the building on google maps. But I’m also referring to other people’s advice.

 

[As sweet as-pie]

I actually gave you advice about planning ahead, making a script, checking out the route and checking out the building on google maps. But I’m also referring to other people’s advice.

I got 2 real pieces of advice. I accepted them both. I appreciate them. I also got some responses implying that I needed to just push myself harder, which I find incredibly ignorant and dismissive. I took on board all real advice and I'm going to use it.

 

[55853]

I just can't go to places I've never been before without visualising them fully and knowing what they look like. That's my main issue. Even with support it's really hard, but there's no way I could do it alone. I can't talk for myself either, I just never know what to say and often become mute.

I relate to both, although I've managed to find ways to cope (to some extent - it's a work in progress).

What is it for you with new places? For me, it's not being able to anticipate what's I'm going to need to do. I overcome that by planning. I look up where I'm going on google maps, I plan multiple ways to get there, I think about likely scenarios I'm going to face and plan for them. Thinking through in advance limits how much on the spot thinking I'll need to do.

Talking has always been a real problem for me. Again, I think in advance of what it is I need to say, and try my best. It often will get in the way. When I really force myself to speak, I hate how people need to be patient, have to see me struggling, and have ask questions to fill in the gaps, but it's something I unfortunately have to learn to deal with if I'm going to get any better.

It is incredibly hard working against it, but if you're driven, you may be able to find a way to increase the amount of things you can do.

 

[As sweet as-pie]

I relate to both, although I've managed to find ways to cope (to some extent - it's a work in progress).

What is it for you with new places? For me, it's not being able to anticipate what's I'm going to need to do. I overcome that by planning. I look up where I'm going on google maps, I plan multiple ways to get there, I think about likely scenarios I'm going to face and plan for them. Thinking through in advance limits how much on the spot thinking I'll need to do.

Talking has always been a real problem for me. Again, I think in advance of what it is I need to say, and try my best. It often will get in the way. When I really force myself to speak, I hate how people need to be patient, have to see me struggling, and have ask questions to fill in the gaps, but it's something I unfortunately have to learn to deal with if I'm going to get any better.

It is incredibly hard working against it, but if you're driven, you may be able to find a way to increase the amount of things you can do.

Well the actual place I have to go to, I've looked outside, just gotten taken there so I can see the entrance etc. I've looked at all available pictures online to get an idea of it, but I've never been inside so I don't know where I'm going. It's a very informal place, it's a care home so I just have to walk in and somehow find a member of staff and ask for the manager. I always just freeze up and feel lost. I've never really done anything for myself because my brain just doesn't understand how... it's like.. does not compute.

I think my main issue is just that it's so informal and casual and I just have to drop in randomly and somehow find a member of staff. I don't trust people who can do this kind of stuff!

Thank you for your reply.

 

[Bolletje]

Do they have a front desk? If possible, call in advance to find out.