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Which age group works best for you in terms of friendships and socialising.

Discussion in 'Friends, Family & Social Skills' started by Ruby, Dec 24, 2013.

  1. Ruby

    Ruby Well-Known Member

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    What kinds of people do you get along best with?
     
  2. King_Oni

    King_Oni Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    I don't think I can put my finger on a definitive age demographic. I think it's just certain types of people with whom I get along better. They however, quite often end up in a certain age range.

    For me personally, I tend to get along fine with people who don't take life to serious and like to take a chance in life every once in a while but at least are aware of what's going on to some extent. I guess one could call them the "irresponsible" adults. That might just as well apply to myself.

    A few years back, I regularly visited a local gaming store (cardgames and such) and while I was in my late 20's, the majority of the folks there were between 15 and 23. I didn't really have a lot of issues with those people in general. Yes, there were exceptions, but everyone has some people he/she can't get along with at all. Some just were full of antics, and nothing but that... and I'm convinced it was attention seeking for a big part. But I managed fine with that group of people there (even though I didn't go there to socialize, but to play cards, I still had a chat here and there). That crowd in general wasn't overly serious in life and just did whatever they wanted to do. And I guess rightfully so at that age. You would notice a big difference in between the crowd from the ones that were in school (or just dropped out) and the ones that had a full-time job. It's behaviour, appearance, amongst a few other things. I've dealt better with erratic behaviour that borders on serious issues (and had the most wonderful conversations with these people) than I did with people who actually took life serious and were geared towards a stable future. Perhaps I just have a thing for all things broken.

    I notice patterns from time to time in the crowds I hang out with. From all the people in my social group, as well as those in the past, I never got along with anyone who was employed. Perhaps that's the "irresponsible" part in me. And the ones that were employed had a weird deal going on. Like a childhood friend of mine who basically runs a 1 man gamedevelopment company pretty much from his bedroom. And while I don't want to discredit him and his job, it's not a job in the traditional sense. And looking at the "older" folks I end up chatting with at times; it's the type of people that run their own tattoo parlor or thriftstore. So that's probably not the most traditional form of employment. They might be a bit more responsible though, heh.
     
  3. Flinty

    Flinty Off Indefinite Hiatus, I Guess V.I.P Member

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    There are three groups that I've had success with socially.

    The first were the old Bulletin Board System users; those were around my age. This was back when someone with 2400 baud was ecstatic, and someone with 9600 baud was looked at as a demigod.

    The second is Magic players. These days they tend to be much younger than I. This differs from when I started, when they were just a little younger. Note that this demographic leans heavily male.

    The third is a group from another message board. They're around my age but skew very heavily female. (As in, literally everyone on that board who has made more posts than I is a woman.)

    The lesson? Shared interests work better than any artificial way of gathering.
     
  4. MoCoffee

    MoCoffee Grandma Aspie! V.I.P Member

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    I tend to get along really well with young people, from teens to about age 35. I'm not sure why this is unless it's my motherly instinct kicking in. That being said, I get along with pretty much anyone as long as they don't crowd me. I have a really hard time maintaining close relationships because of my need to isolate, and I'm happiest on my own.
     
  5. Licorice

    Licorice Twisted

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    I've noticed that I get along particularly well with people in the 30-50 range, especially if they're a little eccentric to begin with. I think they're more focused on life experiences, family, and career than younger women and more interested in just sitting down and sharing thoughts and experiences on those things than people who are still seeking them. I tend to immediately like my instructors who are usually in or close to that range, and one of my closest friends is 10 years older than I am.
     
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    I seem to get on really well with anyone who isn't in my age group! I never got into the whole craziness that goes with being a teenager and young adult, I'm growing up very slowly & so when I didn't get into the concept of 'fancying' people/getting drunk/clubbing, others my age had little patience with me. Currently I get mistaken for someone around age 16-17 rather than 22.

    One of my best friends is nearly twice my age, but then again I love playing video games with my 10 year old cousin. I think it's more to do with the level of maturity and understanding than anything else.
     
  7. Drake Marino

    Drake Marino Well-Known Member

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    I'd say my own age group works best for me (13-20). Adults talk about hardly anything but boring stuff such as politics, and children are just well, annoying. Family gatherings always suck for me because all of my relatives are either younger than 12 or older than 25, so there's no one I can really relate to. :/