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When was the last time you had social contact?

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Share with us when the last time was that you had any form of social contact. It can be a night out with a group or simply being with a friend for a short while. Perhaps you haven't had any social contact at all?

For me, the last time I had social contact was on Tuesday when I went for a walk with my brother and a friend.
 
About two months ago when I saw my sister.

I haven't had true friends or acquaintances for many years now, unfortunately. It would be a lot more ideal if I had at least one or two (good) friends IRL.

superboyian said:
Mine was about 3 hours when I was at my meetings, it was truly amazing.
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What kind of meeting, if you don't mind me asking? Glad you had a good time though, anyway.
 
The last social contact I had was a hacker meeting about the security of bitcoin, which was on Sunday.
 
Aillas said:
About two months ago when I saw my sister.

I haven't had true friends or acquaintances for many years now, unfortunately. It would be a lot more ideal if I had at least one or two (good) friends IRL.
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Don't give up hope. It took me nearly 18 years before I developed a proper social life and good friends.
 
Maybe an hour or two ago, discussing dinner with my dad. Earlier, I worked, so had no alternative there.

As far as people who are not family, co-workers, or complete strangers- harder to say.
Perhaps last Christmas was the last time I really (and briefly) hung out with someone else.
 
Work, although I don't count that. I'm friendly, but not really social. I do talk to my coworkers, and sometimes we actually have conversations. Home,my partner, again not counting that. After 13 years I don't think of it as socializing. So that would leave the 10 minutes in the park parking lot after my Thursday mountain bike ride. I stayed and talked a little with the two guys I rode with. We only talked about the trail and riding during the ride, and not much of that. I'll see a lot of people I know tomorrow as two of the bike clubs I am in are having a joint ride and lunch. So I will have to socialize there.

I do like people somewhat, and I don't have a big social anxiety problem, mostly because I am so unaware a lot of the time at how horrible I can be at dealing with people for more than a few minutes. I do get overloaded sometimes, and will get withdrawn. Tomorrows ride and especially lunch will be stressful. I can usually manage to find a small group of people I know to hang out with, or come up with a pretext to get away.
 
kasmanaft08 said:
Earlier, I worked, so had no alternative there.
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What is the social environment like at your workplace? Do you get on well with your colleagues? I don't have a job yet but I think I would be very quiet and awkward in the workplace if I were to have one.
 
Calvert said:
What is the social environment like at your workplace? Do you get on well with your colleagues? I don't have a job yet but I think I would be very quiet and awkward in the workplace if I were to have one.
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I have plenty of awkward and quiet moments at work. Everyday there's something ridiculous that happens out of my awkwardness or some sort of story I'll rant off to myself on the drive home.

But this job I currently have, I kind of lucked out relatively speaking, especially in comparison to my former ones. My co workers rather nice people and usually keep amongst themselves. I'm considered new and a kind of a nerdy, introverted person so when they get together it's not unusual for me to keep a distnace from it. I'm the odd one out, and since no one finds it threatening or creepy, most of the time I have no issues.

I really jump on moments where I can be by myself or focus on something else, which happen to be the tasks no one else likes anyhow. The problem is less dealing with co-workers, but more dealing with customers/clients/corporate/etc. Thats actually the hardest part. I try to keep things brief and to the point, and do my best to be as neutral and polite as possible. If it gets overwhelming, I just smile and walk away. Smile is the big one, otherwise I found it comes off as rude. With it, I just come off as shy.

The best thing I can recommend for you is, depending on your job, really jump on independent busy work. Clean, organize, paperwork, etc. It makes the time go by faster, and you end up coming off as just a quiet, hard worker. Take breaks when you can, and just be neutral. :)

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If work counts, then friday. If not, I had brunch with some friends the weekend before last.
But this job I currently have, I kind of lucked out relatively speaking, especially in comparison to my former ones. My co workers rather nice people and usually keep amongst themselves. I'm considered new and a kind of a nerdy, introverted person so when they get together it's not unusual for me to keep a distnace from it. I'm the odd one out, and since no one finds it threatening or creepy, most of the time I have no issues.
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That sounds uncannily like me at work :D
 
My last social contact was yesterday, when my wife and I went hiking with some friends. I actually find that I do much better with interacting in situations like that, as opposed to sitting at a table having dinner or something like that. It might be because I don't have to make eye contact when you are walking with someone. I was actually pretty talkative yesterday which usually is not like me.

As far as my workplace, everybody is pretty nice there too, and they really don't force me to do anything. I will talk to people on occasion but most of the time I just sit at my desk and do my work, and try to ignore everything around me. It's kind of difficult, given how sensitive I am to sound, but I try. I almost never go to the special events they do, like special lunches and things like that. That doesn't seem to usually bother them though.
 
Gee, It's been a long time since I said anything other than "hello" or "how are you?" to someone.
Tell you what, it's cuz I moved back home after this semester, and I'm from a really small town, all my peers were smart and got the hell outta town.
It was probably mid-May. May 18th us my birthday and I was still in the town where I went to school so I had a party with all my school friends. It was really fun.
Yeah, it's been too damn long. Kinda lonely in this town, and I'm taking a break from school for the year. It's gonna get even lonelier. :arghh:
On the bright side, I'm going with my cousin to the town where she went to school tomorrow night, just cuz I'm so bored. So that'll be fun!:D
 
I find this a bit hard to answer, because it depends on how you define "social contact". Is it strictly face-to-face encounters? Or by "social", do you mean any sort of encounter where you are interacting with other people?

Anyways, my last social contact was a few hours ago. I was talking to my mum about her computer. Earlier I was over at my uncle and aunty's house, playing with my little cousin and having dinner.

Before that I was IMing people and participating in a chatroom, so I guess I have some form of social interaction every day. Usually, unless I've decided to wrap myself in a bubble and immerse myself in my latest obsession, I prefer having social interaction often.
 
social contact in what way do you mean as in socialising? Or do you mean being with people even if you dont talk to them. Well i only have 2 friends and saw one of them with her daughter last wednesday for 2 hours. Didnt have a good time at the voluntary work i went to afterwards as felt 2 people there ignored me so would have social interaction if they hadnt done that to me so that made me depressed as suffer from depression too!
 
Not having social contact is hard... and even harder at this day and age. It would mean that I put of my e-mail, switch of my phone, delete facebook and whatnot. Actually, if someone sends you an e-mails there is social contact, albeit one-way and you're not listening.

But by "normal" standards, I've had social interaction yesterday, when I was outside for a few hours. I saw some friends downtown. The best I've managed in physical social contact... as in "talking to real people" was about 3 months, and that includes my parents, with whom I live in one house. I haven't spoken to them for 3 months straight at that time. I wasn't mad or anything, I just didn't really care what anyone really wanted to chip in for a long while.
 
How is Social Contact being defined here?
email? IMs? phone calls?
package/mail delivery people?
monetary transactions with checker in store?
people coming to my house to be with me?
me going somewhere with another person?

Does social contact imply the person has to be in the same air space?

I don't know what Social Contact means here,
so I can't answer yet.
 
Does being on a social website count as social contact? In which case every person posting here would have to say that they are currently having social contact.
 
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