I've been confused about the entirely sympathy(and empathy) section being one of asd's symptom and tried to analyze those accidents. I need some suggestions.
My friend once fell over on the rock pavement, her knees bruised and bled. Other friends all ran over to her comforting her expressing their highly concerning anxiety. I did nothing. I didn't move. I just stood far away from them. I wasn't attempting to say anything. I knew and I could feel the pain-- if I fell down I'd hurt too. However that didn't matter. That was a normal physical and nervous reaction. I could recite leukocyte- immune system and every details I've learned.
Why do I need to come to them decreasing the Oxygen proportion around her wound and even try to touch her wound with dirty hands for craziness's sake? We need to provide clean water and/or hydrogen peroxide or whatever cleaning her wound.
Why do I need to say something like "Are you hurt? Is it hurt a lot? How do you feel now? Don't worry we are here with you. Awwwww. Let me hug you you poor bae."
Why do they even do these behaviors? I can recognize I need to find them ointment or something. As to others, I have no idea.
Wound causes pain. It's a fact. If you aren't focusing on wound, the pain would be reduced.
My therapist told me I might be too nervous or merely didn't know what to do, at that moment I was suffering dissociation disease or whatever I didn't care and she said I'd 'regain' the feeling after I went out of *a noun, I forgot it* disorder.
I recall some awkward moments. When I was 7-10, or till 12, I used to ride on office chair sliding around my mom and her colleagues' in homeroom teachers' office. A couple of times I fell off the chair and suddenly all those teachers came to me stared at me loudly asking(shouting at)me lots of question every single time. Nonsense questions. I still remember when they haunted me, they freaked me out as horrible as MONSTERS. They turned out to be crazy when a random accident occurred.
I know they were consoling me but I can't receive their kindness or I can't transfer those into something such as virus I can be affected. I just... don't feel like doing that.
I can be sympathetic to others if I find a reason that I should be.
e.g. killing stray cats would let rats' population rising a lot.
e.g. long-time care for elderly. We get old day by day.
e.g. needy family support. We can't choose where to be born, we all need to survive.
When it comes to simple and small accidents as the above, I'll get wrecked.
Not to mention that I lost all of those friends owing to the fact "I stood there, doing nothing." And the same situation happened quite a few times.
Ugh, my therapist told me I might be *a noun, forgot again* of personality disorder.
Question: If I want to avoid myself being doing nothing again and getting isolated, what should I do? What should I say to them? Will they perceive that I comfort them without any emotion? Any better suggestion?
Oh...and, empathy. Before I realized the lack of empathy was associated with asd, I told my therapist I might not feel the empathy and how it worked and influenced me. She strictly claimed that everyone every behavior is based on empathy. I asked her give me some example I can related to. She seemed to be enraged.
I appreciate all of you reading and replying! I feel much less illusory after I joint this forum!
My friend once fell over on the rock pavement, her knees bruised and bled. Other friends all ran over to her comforting her expressing their highly concerning anxiety. I did nothing. I didn't move. I just stood far away from them. I wasn't attempting to say anything. I knew and I could feel the pain-- if I fell down I'd hurt too. However that didn't matter. That was a normal physical and nervous reaction. I could recite leukocyte- immune system and every details I've learned.
Why do I need to come to them decreasing the Oxygen proportion around her wound and even try to touch her wound with dirty hands for craziness's sake? We need to provide clean water and/or hydrogen peroxide or whatever cleaning her wound.
Why do I need to say something like "Are you hurt? Is it hurt a lot? How do you feel now? Don't worry we are here with you. Awwwww. Let me hug you you poor bae."
Why do they even do these behaviors? I can recognize I need to find them ointment or something. As to others, I have no idea.
Wound causes pain. It's a fact. If you aren't focusing on wound, the pain would be reduced.
My therapist told me I might be too nervous or merely didn't know what to do, at that moment I was suffering dissociation disease or whatever I didn't care and she said I'd 'regain' the feeling after I went out of *a noun, I forgot it* disorder.
I recall some awkward moments. When I was 7-10, or till 12, I used to ride on office chair sliding around my mom and her colleagues' in homeroom teachers' office. A couple of times I fell off the chair and suddenly all those teachers came to me stared at me loudly asking(shouting at)me lots of question every single time. Nonsense questions. I still remember when they haunted me, they freaked me out as horrible as MONSTERS. They turned out to be crazy when a random accident occurred.
I know they were consoling me but I can't receive their kindness or I can't transfer those into something such as virus I can be affected. I just... don't feel like doing that.
I can be sympathetic to others if I find a reason that I should be.
e.g. killing stray cats would let rats' population rising a lot.
e.g. long-time care for elderly. We get old day by day.
e.g. needy family support. We can't choose where to be born, we all need to survive.
When it comes to simple and small accidents as the above, I'll get wrecked.
Not to mention that I lost all of those friends owing to the fact "I stood there, doing nothing." And the same situation happened quite a few times.
Ugh, my therapist told me I might be *a noun, forgot again* of personality disorder.
Question: If I want to avoid myself being doing nothing again and getting isolated, what should I do? What should I say to them? Will they perceive that I comfort them without any emotion? Any better suggestion?
Oh...and, empathy. Before I realized the lack of empathy was associated with asd, I told my therapist I might not feel the empathy and how it worked and influenced me. She strictly claimed that everyone every behavior is based on empathy. I asked her give me some example I can related to. She seemed to be enraged.
I appreciate all of you reading and replying! I feel much less illusory after I joint this forum!