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Featured What inappropriate things have you said? What IS considered inappropriate?

Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by Suzanne, Aug 7, 2017.

  1. Suzanne

    Suzanne Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Is it obvious insults, like: you look awful in that? I would tend to say: it is a great item, but perhaps is not your colour and that is ONLY if I am asked a direct question.
     
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  2. Jet Weiss

    Jet Weiss Incurably Weird

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    I think the worst I ever said was telling a guy that his shirt made him look like he had boobs... I didn't realise how bad it sounded until after I said it.
     
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  3. Suzanne

    Suzanne Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Ahh, I remember that I said once about my brother in law and in front of him and my husband: I make love INTELLECTUALLY with my brother in law and both of them looked at me with shock and I honestly could not figure out what I had said wrong. I did have a great time chatting with my brother in law about deep things and it was often better than intimate things; whereas my husband is not that kind of person and it was only after when it was explained that actually what I was saying was offending my husband's intellect. I tried to apologise, but sadly NT's love to harp on about things and so, I was made to really regret those words. I hasten to add that my brother in law protested, but I think secretly he loved what I said; judging on how he reacted with me generally.
     
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  4. Maelstrom

    Maelstrom Magical Pattern Auspie

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    No! I tend to bring up sensitive subjects to people or ask too direct of questions....my ex- german friend hated that with a passion, particularly asking how do you feel questions.
    I don't trust my reading of other peoples emotions so I sometimes ask too many feelings questions...it is a lose lose thing....tends to go bad either way.:(
     
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  5. Suzanne

    Suzanne Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Ah yes, I guess I am "guilty" of that too.
     
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  6. Chance

    Chance "all who wander are not lost" - Tolkien V.I.P Member

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    A co-worker was telling me about this horrid death of a person (drinking and driving). He knew him and needed off to go to the funeral out of town, non-family... I guess he was overflowing on the BS meter that seems to be built in me. I had no interest in this conversation what so ever, but was trying to fake it.

    Later he said, what do you think? I said I guess he won't be waking up on earth tomorrow, but with a hang over somewhere else? The guy said, "thats horrible... I just asked you if I can go to the funeral?"

    So now startled, since I got caught out in no mans land (never hearing the question he asked), of course I let him go, and felt like an ass the rest of the day, and apologized profusely.

    Was there a funeral? Probably not... I would bet a Benjamin on it, in a second, but I slipped and said what I thought and it wasn't kind of me at all... I stand shamed but forgiven... I think : )
     
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    xudo something V.I.P Member

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    I can't think of any off the top of my head. People usually laugh and say "oh I wish I could be as blunt and to the point as you". They don't mean it though.
     
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    Maelstrom Magical Pattern Auspie

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    Pretty sure it is not a compliment xudo...???:confused:
     
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    Fridgemagnetman I only have one V.I.P Member

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    Ambiguity is another minefield.

    You say something with good intent and it's taken the opposite way.

    If my wife bring up some person or other i tend to pretend verbal abuse them.

    Ie 'i just saw mickey coming out of the shop yesterday'

    I will say '***hole' or something worse..

    I only do it if the person hasn't done anytning wrong.

    As i find it funny and often quite random the way people sometimes use verbally abuse each other.
    So i only do it if there is no reason to :)

    So this only works in my own head but i like it :)

    I am blessed with not remembering too much of the things ive said that have hurt.
    Mostly accidental :)

    My whole being consisted of saying things like that for a long time.

    So, i guess, when i do the above I'm making fun of myself for who i used to be!
     
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    I just say too much, period. Too annoyed with myself to bring up the most recent case. But apparently I had knack for this when I was young - when I was a toddler and an aunt was bathing me, apparently she said something like "oh your little butt is so cute", and apparently I told that if she liked it so much, she should kiss it. Pow. LOL :-D
     
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    xudo something V.I.P Member

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    Yeah, that's why I said they don't mean it. They just laugh because they don't know what else to do or say.

    I think the last time I was supposedly inappropriate was when I said I don't want to hold people's babies. My two sisters in law who are pregnant were talking about someone they know who has a baby and how much they want to hold it. I said I didn't understand why it's a thing and why new parents offer for everyone to hold their babies. Like, it's yours and pretty delicate so maybe don't go offering it round to everyone? And why do people want to hold other people's babies anyway?
     
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    There were colleagues getting into their uniforms and storing personal items in their lockers at work just before starting a shift. I was walking into that locker room to do exactly the same thing. I pushed the door open and immediately blurted "Jesus !! who stinks?"

    The smell of Body odour was overpowering (to my nostrils anyway) I meant to think the question, just like I suspect every one else in that room was.

    Doh !!

    :)
     
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    I was half listening to a colleague one time describing her latest dietry fad. This lady was quite a large lady. How little she professed to eat compared with how much she appeared to be growing (sideways) just didn't add up, and she appeared to be genuinely unhappy about how much weight she always seemed to gain

    It was only when I happened to be two people behind her in a checkout queue and looked at what she was actually loading onto the checkout belt did it become a 'lightbulb' moment (for me anyway) Lots of saturated fats and carbs.

    She happened to glance at the queue behind her and noticed me. In that split second of recognition and feeling obliged to say something in greeting, what I meant to say was "Hello"
    What I actually said was "That's why you're fat"

    Doh !!
     
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    Jet Weiss Incurably Weird

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    I got in the car with my boyfriend and his friend yesterday and the first thing I said was "Woah, you smell terrible!" to the friend, my boyfriend was not pleased :D
     
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    I worked at MAC cosmetics for some time and can say that my customers sincerely liked me at did my amazing Co workers.
    Sometimes, in general random things fly out of my mouth which are...well, amusing to me and others for the most part. I mean to say, thankfully it doesn't upset anyone. I hear, "Briana, you're crazy" often.
    It happened at work one day and since then I've wondered if this occurs more frequently than I'm aware.
    A customer requested a discontinued lip liner. Her question was, "why would they discontinue my liner?"
    My response was, "Maybe because God hates you."
    What?
    The customer laughed and we moved right along.
    My boss was right there and after she asked me back to tell me what is said and laugh but still, what? I'd never equated such a thing before.
    I know in that moment I had that option to say something about the mineral in nature being scarce blahblahblah and it sounded lame in my head- then the hate thing manifested itself.
    I do feel like questions require answers. Strongly. No clue why.
    Occasionally I'll make up stories to questions no one can answer since I can't comprehend that you expect an answer. Like a "why is the sky blue?"question. Usually, we've been over this already and you seem to not be accepting the real reason.
    I usually tell them I'm joking straight away but if we're in conversation there might not be time for that and I'll forget. If It's brought up in future I'm generally shocked that they ran with my ridiculous answer and I'm totally amused.
    I'm kind of a jerk apparently. Heeheehee.
     
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    It's inappropriate to laugh other's mistakes.
     
  17. Fridgemagnetman

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    Similar to a 'temporary smell situation' where a customary 'was that you?' Is vigorously denied by everybody.
    It is also 'soon passed' ie socially forgiveable to say.

    Yet the magical moment you burst in with 'you smell' was simultaneously glorious yet unrecoverable. :)

    ('Thats why you're fat' was an equally brilliant wish i was behind that person i the queue kind of moment)
     
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    The only thing i can think right now of is just telling my parents i'm not interested in talking to them, which they seemed to take as an insult. Stuff like that has happened before too, i don't get why people start laughing or get mad though when i'm just telling the truth.
     
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    Sabrina Gentle & brave earthling V.I.P Member

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    Once I asked a girl if she had had her wisdom teeth removed, because she her face looked swollen... and it turned out that she just had gotten fat !:oops::eek:
     
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    A friend once sarcastically dared me to punch them in the face. I missed the sarcasm part and punched them. Luckily, I have some really understanding friends.
     
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