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Featured What can I do for these things that the person who tested me said to work on

Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by An Arctic fox, Jul 18, 2019.

  1. An Arctic fox

    An Arctic fox Well-Known Member

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    So I was recently diagnosed and i am unsure what would help be with "Therapeutic services
    provided to assist with developing social skills, increasing self-care skills, and general
    independent skill development", any suggestions? And do not suggest ABA therapy.
     
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    Artemis Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Hi Arcticfox...

    Just out of curiosity it looks like you've been a member on the site for a while...did you already know and just recently got a diagnosis? I don't know what I'm talking about really, but if I had to guess I would say just being aware that you need you need to develop those things would be a great start....maybe then in the small moments you can use that information to make decisions that add up.
     
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  3. An Arctic fox

    An Arctic fox Well-Known Member

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    Yeah I've known for a bit and recently gotten a diagnosis. I'm not sure how to put them into play or care enough to try for some of them (like self care or whatever it said)
     
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    Fino Alex V.I.P Member

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    Probably just a therapist who specializes in Autism, I think.
     
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    An Arctic fox Well-Known Member

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    I dont know if I can afford another therapist but I'll check it out. Is there any like classes or therapy thingies I can do to learn the previously mentioned skills
     
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    I wasn't diagnosed until I was 41 and the social skills and coping strategies I have developed came about through exposure to a variety of social situations, and different kinds of people in different roles - life experience. So the answer to that is practice, practice, practice. As you get older, you will probably find that you get better and more condident in social situations.
     
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    An Arctic fox Well-Known Member

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    :/ ok
     
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    Rexi owo uwu owo Weird&Unusual Atheist Science=<3

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    Crossbreed Neur-D Missionary ☝

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    Enroll in a home economics course at a junior college...?
     
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    Fino Alex V.I.P Member

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    Go to a church! I've found that to be the safest place in the world to practice.
     
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  11. Rexi

    Rexi owo uwu owo Weird&Unusual Atheist Science=<3

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    increasing self-care skills: you could look up guides online to how to have healthy thinking, to get motivated and raise your self-compassion and protection, and do the exercises you like the most out of the suggestions. That might involve not letting negative thinking put you down when it ensues, working to have healthy emotions instead of powerful and untolerable ones.

    The internet helped me more than a psych could ever do, and in a very short amount of time with no money, because I could work with myself, know myself more and ask Google all the questions i had until I clarified everything so my insecurity went down to minuses about myself, others, and the data I gathered and continue to use. Through the internet and my thinking after learning basics and becoming more self confident, I learned how to be more independent.
     
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  12. An Arctic fox

    An Arctic fox Well-Known Member

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    What would I do in the church?
     
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    I skimmed it, seems interesting but unhelpful for me unless there was a specific section you thought would help.
     
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    An Arctic fox Well-Known Member

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    I'll look into it
     
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    I may try that but I'm not sure I have enough motivation
     
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    Rexi owo uwu owo Weird&Unusual Atheist Science=<3

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    Treatment options and their usefulness for autistic people, since you mentioned ABA
     
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    Well, it might be weird if you aren't a believer; but if you are, they often have social events, like potlucks etc. and are likely to be an accepting group.
     
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    I don't know if there are programs for adults (and also if there are, where you live). I know when my child was diagnosed here in Australia years ago there was a program to help with social skills - recognising facial expressions, greeting people etc. It was really helpful.

    (Edited) Sorry - you actually said you can't afford another therapist... My suggestion was to do that work with a therapist (as @Fino suggested before too). If you find you can manage that then go for it. :)

    Otherwise, why don't you google to see if there are programs in your area, or call an ASD specialist clinic or doctor and ask them if they know anywhere. Another idea might be a support group. There you could swap information and also practice your skills.
     
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  19. Rexi

    Rexi owo uwu owo Weird&Unusual Atheist Science=<3

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    You can build motivation, you do plenty of things for others and even post frequently on here, it only takes two words and an enter, then a bit of a fun read.
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    I motivated myself to help motivate you. Let's do it, we can break the limits of our minds. One thing at a time, not all in a day. Kay?
     
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    An Arctic fox Well-Known Member

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    I'm not a believer, I dont like people, and I dont know what a potluck is