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Trying to figure out if I could be on the spectrum

Jackie338

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Hi guys, I want to start this post off by saying I know at least the majority of you aren't medical professionals and aren't qualified to diagnose me or anything. I guess I'm just looking for opinions from people who know more than I do about ASD.


A bit about me:

-I'm a 21 year old female, currently enrolled in college and working part time (15 hours a week)
-I'm highly intelligent and do exceedingly well in school. That's one area that I excel at for sure, especially anything related to writing and literature. I can focus really well when I need to and almost never procrastinate.
-As a child I used to have a lot of problems socially, never playing with or talking to other children even though I really wanted to.
-I do have friends now, which I didn't start making until about 4th grade. I now have two at home and about three at school, who I am very close to.
-I have only seriously dated one person in the past for about 3 months, and he did not understand my need for quiet and space in any way, and I eventually had to break up with him. He wanted to party and drink and go out all the time, which is a nightmare scenario for me.
-I do like going out once or twice a week, usually shopping or eating out, but I hate super-crowded places. Parties and nightclubs are just awful for me.
-I am able to handle school and a job, but not without frequent bouts of anxiety. I did work full-time-ish one summer (about 36 hours a week) and I was near-breakdown almost every day. When I got home I would just start crying and lock myself in my room as I tried to muster up the energy to go the next day.
-I find that I'm able to work up to 20-25 hours quite comfortably in my current retail job, a very quiet store which doesn't require much multitasking or pressure. I had to leave a bigger department store a year ago due to the stress of selling credit cards, the fast pace and constant interactions. I'm actually quite good at small talk but I do find it incredibly draining. I also had a part time job as a receptionist that I had to ultimately quit because every time the phone rang I found myself panicking, and I also found my mind going blank whenever someone asked me something too complicated.
-I do kind of have "obsessions", but I suppose they're on the milder side. Basically I can spend up to 2 or 3 hours a day researching about my topics of interest (currently sexuality and mental health)
-Common things like driving and paying bills get me panicking as well and totally overwhelm me. I only feel comfortable driving as far as 5 minutes from my house, and take the bus almost everywhere else.
-I get lost all the time, and when people ask me for directions even to places I know very well, even to my own house....I get flustered.
-I snap at people a lot when there are two people talking to me at once, I actually can't handle it most of the time.
-I'm much better at written communication then verbal. I often struggle to put into words exactly what I'm thinking.
-I have had to train myself to do things like eye contact, being warm and friendly with strangers, etc.

So...is there a chance I could be on the spectrum? Is it likely or unlikely? Am I overreacting and this is all just part of my anxiety? Where do I go from here? Any input is appreciated. Thank you all for reading through this ridiculously long first post!
 
Hello Jackie and welcome :)

if it might help, have a look around the site and read some of the experiences of others. Check if any of it resonates with you?
 
Hi, well I'm in the same predicament as you. I don't know. I'm waiting an assessment. So if your not on the list yet. Do that. Talk to GP or health nurse etc. And tell them you think you may be AS.

As for what you say, some of it is very applicable to me, and others no. But I get similar anxiety triggers to you.

Have you tried an autism aq. Screening test yet? My mental health nurse waited for mentioning say specific things I think. I told her I think I'm AS, and she barely reacted..
:/
I was unnerved a bit then and started to panic talk.. .. . . Blabbering.

She pulled out a questionaire and said I need to score 6/10 to be Considered for an assessment.

I Hit a 9/10. Highest I've scored at anything :)
 
Hi, well I am a medical expert, my title is the Love Doctor, but you can just call me Doc :p Anyway, so now I'm done being cheesy, I will say that it does sound like you have quite a few autistic traits, I myself was kind of in a wee bit of denial for a while, until it became so blindingly obvious wat the problem was that I couldn't anymore. The need for quiet, tick, difficulty with friends/relationships, tick, and all the rest, sounds about right to me. But hey, if you want to figure out if you have possible Aspergers, autism or whatever else, this is the place to look for that info. Welcome!
 
Let's just say IMO it's worth pursuing here. Interact with us, find out what you may have in common- or not with us. And take all the online tests to get a sense of a benchmark (not a diagnosis) for where you may actually stand. It's a start. ;)

Welcome to AF. :)
 
Completing some of those will help point you in the right direction concerning an official diagnosis. That's w

And take all the online tests to get a sense of a benchmark (not a diagnosis) for where you may actually stand. It's a start. ;)

Thank you all so much for replying quickly! If you don't mind me asking...does anyone know the best online test I could take? Of course I'll probably eventually take things up with my doctor, but...I thought a good online test would be a good place to start.
 
Thank you all so much for replying quickly! If you don't mind me asking...does anyone know the best online test I could take? Of course I'll probably eventually take things up with my doctor, but...I thought a good online test would be a good place to start.

For starters:

The Ritvo Autism Asperger Diagnostic Scale-Revised (RAADS-R)


The AQ-test; The Autism Spectrum Quotient

Yale-Brown Obsessive Compulsive Scale

Attention Deficit Disorder Test.

Face Memory Test
 
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Hi guys, I want to start this post off by saying I know at least the majority of you aren't medical professionals and aren't qualified to diagnose me or anything. I guess I'm just looking for opinions from people who know more than I do about ASD.


A bit about me:

-I'm a 21 year old female, currently enrolled in college and working part time (15 hours a week)
-I'm highly intelligent and do exceedingly well in school. That's one area that I excel at for sure, especially anything related to writing and literature. I can focus really well when I need to and almost never procrastinate.
-As a child I used to have a lot of problems socially, never playing with or talking to other children even though I really wanted to.
-I do have friends now, which I didn't start making until about 4th grade. I now have two at home and about three at school, who I am very close to.
-I have only seriously dated one person in the past for about 3 months, and he did not understand my need for quiet and space in any way, and I eventually had to break up with him. He wanted to party and drink and go out all the time, which is a nightmare scenario for me.
-I do like going out once or twice a week, usually shopping or eating out, but I hate super-crowded places. Parties and nightclubs are just awful for me.
-I am able to handle school and a job, but not without frequent bouts of anxiety. I did work full-time-ish one summer (about 36 hours a week) and I was near-breakdown almost every day. When I got home I would just start crying and lock myself in my room as I tried to muster up the energy to go the next day.
-I find that I'm able to work up to 20-25 hours quite comfortably in my current retail job, a very quiet store which doesn't require much multitasking or pressure. I had to leave a bigger department store a year ago due to the stress of selling credit cards, the fast pace and constant interactions. I'm actually quite good at small talk but I do find it incredibly draining. I also had a part time job as a receptionist that I had to ultimately quit because every time the phone rang I found myself panicking, and I also found my mind going blank whenever someone asked me something too complicated.
-I do kind of have "obsessions", but I suppose they're on the milder side. Basically I can spend up to 2 or 3 hours a day researching about my topics of interest (currently sexuality and mental health)
-Common things like driving and paying bills get me panicking as well and totally overwhelm me. I only feel comfortable driving as far as 5 minutes from my house, and take the bus almost everywhere else.
-I get lost all the time, and when people ask me for directions even to places I know very well, even to my own house....I get flustered.
-I snap at people a lot when there are two people talking to me at once, I actually can't handle it most of the time.
-I'm much better at written communication then verbal. I often struggle to put into words exactly what I'm thinking.
-I have had to train myself to do things like eye contact, being warm and friendly with strangers, etc.

So...is there a chance I could be on the spectrum? Is it likely or unlikely? Am I overreacting and this is all just part of my anxiety? Where do I go from here? Any input is appreciated. Thank you all for reading through this ridiculously long first post!
it's not long you're just very confident wish I'd been able to do it welcome
 
Welcome Jackie! What you are describing sounds a lot like AS. I can relate to almost every one of your symptoms, except the first one. I have never been female. :tonguewink: If you are interested in an official diagnosis, it would be worth pursuing.
 
Hi guys, I want to start this post off by saying I know at least the majority of you aren't medical professionals and aren't qualified to diagnose me or anything. I guess I'm just looking for opinions from people who know more than I do about ASD.


A bit about me:

-I'm a 21 year old female, currently enrolled in college and working part time (15 hours a week)
-I'm highly intelligent and do exceedingly well in school. That's one area that I excel at for sure, especially anything related to writing and literature. I can focus really well when I need to and almost never procrastinate.
-As a child I used to have a lot of problems socially, never playing with or talking to other children even though I really wanted to.
-I do have friends now, which I didn't start making until about 4th grade. I now have two at home and about three at school, who I am very close to.
-I have only seriously dated one person in the past for about 3 months, and he did not understand my need for quiet and space in any way, and I eventually had to break up with him. He wanted to party and drink and go out all the time, which is a nightmare scenario for me.
-I do like going out once or twice a week, usually shopping or eating out, but I hate super-crowded places. Parties and nightclubs are just awful for me.
-I am able to handle school and a job, but not without frequent bouts of anxiety. I did work full-time-ish one summer (about 36 hours a week) and I was near-breakdown almost every day. When I got home I would just start crying and lock myself in my room as I tried to muster up the energy to go the next day.
-I find that I'm able to work up to 20-25 hours quite comfortably in my current retail job, a very quiet store which doesn't require much multitasking or pressure. I had to leave a bigger department store a year ago due to the stress of selling credit cards, the fast pace and constant interactions. I'm actually quite good at small talk but I do find it incredibly draining. I also had a part time job as a receptionist that I had to ultimately quit because every time the phone rang I found myself panicking, and I also found my mind going blank whenever someone asked me something too complicated.
-I do kind of have "obsessions", but I suppose they're on the milder side. Basically I can spend up to 2 or 3 hours a day researching about my topics of interest (currently sexuality and mental health)
-Common things like driving and paying bills get me panicking as well and totally overwhelm me. I only feel comfortable driving as far as 5 minutes from my house, and take the bus almost everywhere else.
-I get lost all the time, and when people ask me for directions even to places I know very well, even to my own house....I get flustered.
-I snap at people a lot when there are two people talking to me at once, I actually can't handle it most of the time.
-I'm much better at written communication then verbal. I often struggle to put into words exactly what I'm thinking.
-I have had to train myself to do things like eye contact, being warm and friendly with strangers, etc.

So...is there a chance I could be on the spectrum? Is it likely or unlikely? Am I overreacting and this is all just part of my anxiety? Where do I go from here? Any input is appreciated. Thank you all for reading through this ridiculously long first post!

Hi Jackie. Welcome to AF!!!

Yeah. You sound a lot like the rest of us here. You need to find an Autism/Aspergers specialist in your area to be officially diagnosed. You can search for one on the internet. Be sure to take online tests to print out and take with you to your assessment to help get a correct diagnosis. Help for adult Aspies is kind of scarce, except here on this site. We do our best to help each other out. We have lots of resources to help you find out how to deal with your Aspie traits and how to deal with them and life.

Make yourself at home and talk to the nice friendly people here.
 
@Judge , thank you so much! I'll definitely have to take some of those. I had no idea where to start, so this was so helpful.



I'm an English major with a concentration in language and literature :)
Did you get a degree ?my mother got a degree in eng lit ended up being a solicitor
 
So getting lost in a good book is the story of your life.

Pretty much! I like to think I've read all of the classics anyway :D


Did you get a degree ?my mother got a degree in eng lit ended up being a solicitor

I'm currently still in school actually, but I should have my degree by this upcoming May!
I have no clue what a solicitor is, but good to know! :D I'll have to look into that when I start applying for work in a couple months.
 
Pretty much! I like to think I've read all of the classics anyway :D




I'm currently still in school actually, but I should have my degree by this upcoming May!
I have no clue what a solicitor is, but good to know! :D I'll have to look into that when I start applying for work in a couple months.
Doesn't exist in the us it's more like a pro bono attorney
but in the uk there is a separate job for representation in court which is a barrister
She did that as in the mid 80s no jobs for eng lit grads
 
Oh that's cool! :)
Still have all her books -she loved biographies which she devoured from the library ,I think as she was in poor health no accommodations for back injuries at polytechnics in the 80s and after studying which made her shy of the course list of books biographies were a break
Of course she had to do entrance study to become a solicitor but didn't Have a law degree !so more University
 

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