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Struggling

Discussion in 'Help and Support' started by Oda a la Tormenta, Aug 28, 2017.

  1. Oda a la Tormenta

    Oda a la Tormenta Active Member

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    Been quiet for the past week or so because my depression and anxiety, has been bad. I am new to therapy so all of everything we are working on is just coming to the surface as well as everything I deal with daily and it's beyond my words to say how hard it is to process everything. I get through what is required of me the best I can and then a lot of time is spent alone in my room or my bed. Away trying to process everything. But I cannot. It's like everything is on loop and I can't stop it. It's like I am stuck.
    And people, however well intention, don't make it better. Also I feel like my family is trying their best to cope with me and their understanding but I know it can't be easy.
    I apologize for the vent. I just wanted to check in and say I'm here. And I find this place helpful and safe. Thank you for listening. ❤️
     
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  2. Jet Weiss

    Jet Weiss Incurably Weird

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    No need to apologise for venting, that's what this site is here for :)
    I'm sorry to hear you've been going through so much, I'm glad you find this place helpful and safe, I completely agree. I hope you can continue to find lots of support here and that you start feeling better soon.
     
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  3. Keigan

    Keigan Restless Mind V.I.P Member

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    Try grounding yourself with something that you know and love, remind yourself that you are you and all of this shall pass and you'll be stronger from the experience.
     
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  4. Momo

    Momo Well-Known Larrikin

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    Vent to your hearts content! I've heard it's good for the soul, or something like that. I say treat your self, by eating a whole family-sized block of chocolate.... or perhaps I'm giving you that advice so I don't feel so guilty about devouring mine... Oh well, hope you feel better soon! :p
     
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    I have found this song to be very encouraging lately.
     
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    SusanLR Well-Known Member

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    Glad to see you are here again.
    Stay strong and just go with it. Not easy.
    Spending time alone and resting may be what you need for processing. I believe my body tells me what I should be doing that is helpful if I just listen to the feelings.
    I always try to find something to focus on that brings good emotions everyday even if it is something very simple. Like a flower or a meditation. The fresh air helps and when I start feeling guilty about getting things done like housework or what ever, I pick at least one thing and do it. Gives a sense of accomplishment even if it is small in the overall scheme because that can feel overwhelming.
     
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    Streetwise very cautious contributor V.I.P Member

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    If you don't already go out and buy multivitamins you need all of them
    You may be lacking in vitamin B6 and vitamin b3
     
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    Alaska Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Hi Oda. I just posted to Momo things I do when
    I am having a hard time to get better. Perhaps they will help you as well. It is one of the featured forum Posts by Momo.
     
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    I hope the processing runs smoothly for you.
    Nothing worthwhile is ever easy.
    You're not alone, here, on this site.
    :)
     
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  10. spaceman

    spaceman I hear radio waves. .. in my head

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    I find a way to try to go easy on myself. Like : right. Today. All I am going to do is 3 things. The rest of the day I'm going to relax with music and
    (for me I like a spliff, I'm not advocating just not going to lie and replace with chocolate or something)
    The three things. Have a shower, get some fresh air, do the dishes.
    And that's it.

    It don't sound much, but it does makes me feel back in control, it takes the edge of all the guilt built up by procrastinating, and you get 'some' productivity which helps also.

    Sean covey 7habits helped me too.
     
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    Sabrina Gentle & brave earthling

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    Nooo, don't do that. I did that when I was a teen. I ended up binge eating for aprox. 4 years, lots of weight on, more depressed for not being able to control myself and because of being fat. It took me aprox. 2 years to lose the weight and change my mind set (I haven't fell into that since then, thank God).
    It all started innocently like that, "let's cheer up with some carbs, just one time", and it spiraled down very fast.
     
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    I know the feeling..
     
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    Don't worry, I don't think I'd even physically be able to eat a family sized block of chocolate without vomiting (it was a joke). I generally don't eat that much at all, which is my problem, remembering to eat.
     
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  15. Oda a la Tormenta

    Oda a la Tormenta Active Member

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    Thank you everyone. Just being here is helpful, a sounding board...where I can quietly convey my thoughts. I appreciate you all.
     
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    spaceman I hear radio waves. .. in my head

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    Yay, but there's a Sean covey book, that's aimed at teenagers. I'm far from a teen. I'm almost 40. But prefer the teen book. I am still young inside...

    Before I knew I was aspie, and believed "the it" was social anxiety, this book pulled me through, some real challenges and I believed this was going to fix me.. my only issues were bad habits and self esteem. (Ok on aspie, the book won't fix me. But when it at a low, or in a limbo please give this a try. Thank you for the links
     
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    I think a deficiency in dopamine levels can create a bit of a craving for carbs and sugar.
     
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  18. Oda a la Tormenta

    Oda a la Tormenta Active Member

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    This is the first piece of applicable advice I've been given that is grounding and not saccharine sweet and annoyingly cloying and not seemingly unattainable. This is helpful and not hurtful. Thank you.
     
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    Very helpful easily and not applicable and overwhelming Susan. Thank you :hibiscus::cherryblossom::rose:
     
  20. oregano

    oregano is dodging tomato trucks on I-5 southbound

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    Oda, I reread your initial post and would like to say, get a lot of sleep, sleep is how the body heals and if I get overwhelmed I try to stim until I can go to sleep for the night and usually I wake up feeling better. AS people's minds tend to overload easily. Also, you need to tell your therapist, since it sounds like bringing up those awful memories triggered it. Maybe the therapist needs to adjust her approach.
     
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