An online contact told me she got a girlfriend after telling me earlier she was depressed and wanted to kill herself. It made me have flashbacks of how when I was first becoming truly depressed and wanting a girlfriend, I was told I needed to be happy with myself and couldn’t be depressed if I wanted a romantic relationship. I took it as being told I had to somehow not be depressed by sheer will but the fact I felt lonely and was always seeing couples kept me feeling despondent.
My therapist also tells me I need to be ok with myself but at the same time, she’ll tell me I need to “put myself out there.” Well, I have been doing that lately. It hasn’t led to a relationship, though.
Are people giving me poor advice or is it because I’ve struggled with persistent depression for so long that my brain doesn’t want to get better?
EDIT: I just learned that the online contact and her girlfriend broke up.
My therapist also tells me I need to be ok with myself but at the same time, she’ll tell me I need to “put myself out there.” Well, I have been doing that lately. It hasn’t led to a relationship, though.
Are people giving me poor advice or is it because I’ve struggled with persistent depression for so long that my brain doesn’t want to get better?
EDIT: I just learned that the online contact and her girlfriend broke up.
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