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Starting University...

Discussion in 'Education and Employment' started by Sophia D, Sep 18, 2018.

  1. Sophia D

    Sophia D Active Member

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    Hello folks, I'll be off to the halls in only a few days from now.
    It will feel like a clean slate, no one will know me or have any idea of my AS. I feel very anxious like most, but at the end of the day it's something I'll need to get through to get to adult life.

    Eating, budgeting and socialising with people I've never met still feels daunting to me.
    Do you have any tips on what to do? Or any similar experiences?
    How to communicate, also they'll be many parties during the introduction week and it might sometimes stress me out trying to find something to wear. If I do go to social events, I would prefer to go with people not on my own.

    Apologies for my quick writing style, I'm in a bit of a rush at the moment.

    Regards.
     
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  2. pamelaperejil

    pamelaperejil Non-player character

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    Good luck.
     
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  3. George Newman

    George Newman Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Develop a strong routine. Try your best to stick to it. University was tough for me but I guess I took it day by day. Stay strong and focused.
     
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  4. Progster

    Progster Gone sideways to the sun V.I.P Member

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    Try to get their early if at all possible, to get settled in and take in your surroundings before lectures/classes/tutorials start. As for making friends, don't push yourself too hard... think of some generic 'getting to know you' type questions you can ask people to start off a conversation, like where are you from? Or what are you studying?
     
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    tducey Well-Known Member

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    Good luck to you in your studies. I'm sure you'll be fine.
     
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    Aeolienne Well-Known Member

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    Make sure you get work experience during your long vacations.
     
  7. Chrysanthemum

    Chrysanthemum Active Member

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    I think your attitude is fantastic!

    I suspect that not all of the parties are mandatory? So unless they’re mandatory, you have the right to choose whether or not to go. (By the way, please only drink drinks that are unopened/that you know exactly what is in it.)

    I’d say just be friendly and be yourself, you might want to be careful with the information you share initially when you are getting to know new people. However, might be a good idea to try to form friendships (I personally haven’t really formed any friendships) or acquaintanceships so that you can support each other throughout university.

    Also, thought I’d mention that if you get a doctor’s note, sometimes universities may allow you to have priority for a single room in case you would prefer a single room in the halls/dorms.

    Hope you have a wonderful time in university!
     
  8. Bolletje

    Bolletje Overly complicated potato V.I.P Member

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    A good way to find people to relate to is to find a club for an activity you enjoy. It might not help you through the initial parties, but it will be an opportunity to make friends.

    I had a very lonely start when I started at university and was overwhelmed by the amount of new people and had difficulty getting to know people.

    In my second year I joined a club that wrote our faculty’s magazine. I enjoy writing and making comics as well as editing and redacting, so it was a perfect fit for me. The other people in the club mostly shared my sense of humor and even though it took me some time to open up to them, I still meet them regularly 14 years later.