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Speaking Terms?

Discussion in 'Love, Relationships and Dating' started by Glytch, Oct 20, 2018.

  1. Glytch

    Glytch Well-Known Member

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    Heyooo, everybody!
    Sorry I haven’t been online in a while. I had a rough week, but that’s not what I’m here to talk about at this particular moment.

    So, yesterday, I was having a conversation with someone, and the topic of past romantic failures came up. Of course, I talked about the Amanda drama, but it was much easier to do so than it used to be.
    Then, last night, as I was getting ready for bed, you’ll never guess what happened... Amanda texted me.

    Yes, you read that correctly. She texted me. After about thirty uncomfortable minutes of texting back and forth, she finally gave me a straight answer for why she broke up with me.
    Just like that, we’re on speaking terms again.

    ...Honestly, I’m not sure how to react to this. Just as I was ready to move on and put her out of mind, she came back into my life. Now, I know there’s no chance of rekindling that romance (been there, done that, dead, buried, do not resuscitate), but what should I do? Should I even do anything? Or should I just wait and see what happens?
     
  2. Tom

    Tom Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    No idea or can't remember what the backstory is, but from above sounds like she is keeping you on a string. Will you keep going back like a dog?
     
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    Agree with @Tom and you don't want to end up being a filler or a fall back on. Don't do anything.
     
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    Judge Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Considering your own words, I suspect you already know what you need to do.
     
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  5. Mattymatt

    Mattymatt Imperfectly Perfect

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    It's best not to pursue this avenue any further. Maybe make it clear to Amanda that the ship has sailed and to wish her luck.
     
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  6. Monachopia

    Monachopia ...spiral out... keep going.

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    She sounds a little like someone who wants a little drama in her life... If something is done, why come back to rub salt into the wound? I mean, while it may give you some closure to know the reason why things happened the way they did, it's probably best to leave it there. There is nothing more to say or do.
     
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  7. pamelaperejil

    pamelaperejil Non-player character

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    Don't get sucked back in to whatever this is.
     
  8. Shiznown

    Shiznown Well-Known Member

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    She either wants one of two things, 1. someone to complain to to make herself feel important, or 2. a fall back guy to have sex with until she finds a new boyfriend. The only reason to talk to her would be purely for sex, if you wanted to have sex with her and if you thought it would even happen. Other than that, there is no reason to talk to her. Just delete her number and all her texts.
     
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    Peter Morrison Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Recognize your own value and don't let anyone inflict their narcissistic drama on you. Focus on your own life and beware of bloodsuckers.
     
  10. Glytch

    Glytch Well-Known Member

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    NOTHING I DO EVER HAS TO DO WITH SEX. I AM A FREAKING VIRGIN.

    ...Ahem. Sorry about that. Got a bit worked up there.
     
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  11. Glytch

    Glytch Well-Known Member

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    We talked some more today. She denied that she talked about me, even though I know she did.
    ...I know she’s not good for me... She’s manipulative, two-faced, and toxic, according to all sources... and yet... I feel compelled...

    ...She has an arrow in me yet...
     
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    SusanLR Well-Known Member

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    And those arrows can be...(zing) simply irresistable. :oops:
    Been through it all. Trying to avoid the arrows.
    But, hey... tumblr_n00dll6m801s2wio8o3_500.gif
     
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  13. Shiznown

    Shiznown Well-Known Member

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    Ah yeah, way to be courteous. Good luck to you!