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Something weird happened to me

sjsharks11

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I have always had trouble talking to new people, let alone girls(I only have 1 friend that I talk to nowadays). I was diagnosed with autism a couple of years ago, so it made sense that I had issues with that. I am more comfortable usually talking with older guys(like my dads friends in my fantasy league). Hell I've had good conversations with older women involving dogs.

Something weird though happened at my family reunion at Tahoe a few weeks ago. I think I'm the only one over 18 who hasn't brought a significant other to it(which I haven't cared about). I usually just talk with a few certain people(mostly about sports like the Giants/baseball, etc), plus I like to research the baseball games to bet on them(Fortunately I'm not a high roller).

We get there on Friday, and I talk to the usual people, etc. At the beach the next day I mostly eat and read about the sports to bet on. So during our goofy 10 v 10 beach volleyball game(which is silly as it sounds), one of my cousins girlfriends(who I hadn't even met or talked to) randomly smiled at me. I of course didn't think much of it, but then afterward she shook my hand and introduced herself, which again I didn't think much of.

That night, I went to the casino, and was joined by some people, including those 2. After I was done playing she again shook my hand to meet me. She was from Washington, but currently lives in Phoenix. I asked "Are you a Seahawks fan?", to she said she isn't really into sports, but would claim them as her favorite team.(I said I like the Niners and the Cardinals are my #2 team). I also said I have family from Tucson and love the Arizona Wildcats.

What was weird is after that the conversation continued and I seemingly had very little issues talking to her(about several topics). I didn't drone on about certain topics, plus we were doing well going back and forth asking and answering questions(laughing a few times) She paid more attention to me then her boyfriend playing blackjack. She touched my shoulder/arm a few times. I was blocking out other distractions in the room. She was attractive, but seemingly the more and more we were talking, she looked better and better. Oddly enough I was barely sweating and even shared some personal things with her. I admitted to her that I don't really have many friends(plus how I just enjoy walking up to Starbucks with my dogs) and how it was weird for me to be talking to her, to which she thought that I was doing a great job.

The next day at the beach we talked a little more. A little later my family had to leave. I mostly shook hands with the others, but she insisted I hug which I did. She had said she enjoyed talking with me. I realized that I actually like her and would like to maybe see her again, but obviously I'm well aware that she's taken(and she doesn't live near me, plus I don't want to hurt anyone). I had thought about maybe talking to her in an adjacent room at the casino, but I couldn't do it for obvious reasons.

It just made no sense that she was actually interested in talking to me initially and that I wasn't nervous at all in talking to her(I thought that someone made her talk with me, but that's not possible) No one had ever been that interested in talking to me, especially a girl. I'm still kinda shocked with how I went.

Any thoughts on this?
 
I have always had trouble talking to new people, let alone girls(I only have 1 friend that I talk to nowadays). I was diagnosed with autism a couple of years ago, so it made sense that I had issues with that. I am more comfortable usually talking with older guys(like my dads friends in my fantasy league). Hell I've had good conversations with older women involving dogs.

Something weird though happened at my family reunion at Tahoe a few weeks ago. I think I'm the only one over 18 who hasn't brought a significant other to it(which I haven't cared about). I usually just talk with a few certain people(mostly about sports like the Giants/baseball, etc), plus I like to research the baseball games to bet on them(Fortunately I'm not a high roller). We get there on Friday, and I talk to the usual people, etc. At the beach the next day I mostly eat and read about the sports to bet on. So during our goofy 10 v 10 beach volleyball game(which is silly as it sounds), one of my cousins girlfriends(who I hadn't even met or talked to) randomly smiled at me. I of course didn't think much of it, but then afterward she shook my hand and introduced herself, which again I didn't think much of. That night, I went to the casino, and was joined by some people, including those 2. After I was done playing she again shook my hand to meet me. She was from Washington, but currently lives in Phoenix. I asked "Are you a Seahawks fan?", to she said she isn't really into sports, but would claim them as her favorite team.(I said I like the Niners and the Cardinals are my #2 team). I also said I have family from Tucson and love the Arizona Wildcats. What was weird is after that the conversation continued and I seemingly had very little issues talking to her(about several topics). I didn't drone on about certain topics, plus we were doing well going back and forth asking and answering questions(laughing a few times) She paid more attention to me then her boyfriend playing blackjack. She touched my shoulder/arm a few times. I was blocking out other distractions in the room. She was attractive, but seemingly the more and more we were talking, she looked better and better. Oddly enough I was barely sweating and even shared some personal things with her. I admitted to her that I don't really have many friends(plus how I just enjoy walking up to Starbucks with my dogs) and how it was weird for me to be talking to her, to which she thought that I was doing a great job. The next day at the beach we talked a little more. A little later my family had to leave. I mostly shook hands with the others, but she insisted I hug which I did. She had said she enjoyed talking with me. I realized that I actually like her and would like to maybe see her again, but obviously I'm well aware that she's taken(and she doesn't live near me, plus I don't want to hurt anyone). I had thought about maybe talking to her in an adjacent room at the casino, but I couldn't do it for obvious reasons. It just made no sense that she was actually interested in talking to me initially and that I wasn't nervous at all in talking to her(I thought that someone made her talk with me, but that's not possible) No one had ever been that interested in talking to me, especially a girl. I'm still kinda shocked with how I went.
Any thoughts on this?

Hi SJ Sharks. Welcome to AC!!!

It is good that you had a nice experience with a girl at your family gathering.

This gave you a way lf knowing that it is possible for you to have such an experience with a girl. It also tells you that you can have another experience like that if you want to.

This does not mean that it will happen with every girl you meet, but it will with some. This can give you hope that you will find a girl that is a good partner for you and help you get through the less pleasant experiences that happen to those of us on this site.

You may know that Aspies do not usually do so well with our social skills. We can get better at it when we work at it, and that includes you.
 
"Chemistry" while perhaps a rare thing for those of us on the spectrum can and does happen. ;)

It's not just for Neurotypicals.

Go Sharks! :cool: Patrick, we hardly knew 'ye. :(
 
"Chemistry" while perhaps a rare thing for those of us on the spectrum can and does happen. ;)

It's not just for Neurotypicals.

Go Sharks! :cool: Patrick, we hardly knew 'ye. :(
I know about Marleau! Speaking of the Sharks, that night I talked to her, the TVs behind the tables had on ESPN which was showing the body issue special. So they had showed a couple of the Sharks who were posing nude. I pointed that out to her(since I had already told her I like the team), and we had a laugh. Not sure if I would've pointed that out to anyone else(outside of my immediate family).
 

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