PinkPenguin29
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So we approached summer and my husband is OCD'ing on keeping our house at a comfy temperature. He's been working on an 'ideal' schedule to keep the house cool. He's been in charge of this and hasn't exactly worked it out with me. Honestly, I think he's putting too much work into it.
Well he had to unfortunately go to work today on a Saturday, and that really stinks, but that's the way it goes sometimes. He didn't give me any specific instructions
Well I'm watching TV, doing laundry, and chilling with the dog, and the apparent 'audacity' to have the screen door open. I have several fans going and the house seems to be at a consistent 70 degrees, which is around the temperature the house is at when he goes through all his 'proper staging'
Well something at worked ticked him off, or the pure fact that he had to work today had him in a bad mood, but he comes in with his scolding tone, 'why is the back door open?' I'm mostly confused by this question, and he repeats it. to which I just shrug. Then he goes off on an angry tangent on how it's 80 degrees outside which means the 'stageing' of the house won't work because it's now going to be unbearably hot . Then does this 'pulls me into hug', about to explain how he is doing this for both of us B.S. when it's really one of his needs to be in control issues that he needs to work on. So I pull away, because I 'Hate' these hugs. Because they always come after something that feels really condescending. and tell him "I don't want to be hugged after being yelled at"
Which he pulled away with a "fine", and got out his laptop and continued to work.
Part of the problem I've let him hug me like this before, because I didn't know what else to do. The other part of the problem is he really is in a bad mood because of work but I don't think he know how to deal with that because Work is out of his control, but the temperature of the house is something he feels he can control. I also don't think I did anything wrong, but now he's gonna be even more moody. So best thing I guess is Space?
I don't want it to sound like he's a jerk, because most of the time he's not, and I too have my faults. We are both Somewhere along the spectrum and still working on the communication with other humans.
Well he had to unfortunately go to work today on a Saturday, and that really stinks, but that's the way it goes sometimes. He didn't give me any specific instructions
Well I'm watching TV, doing laundry, and chilling with the dog, and the apparent 'audacity' to have the screen door open. I have several fans going and the house seems to be at a consistent 70 degrees, which is around the temperature the house is at when he goes through all his 'proper staging'
Well something at worked ticked him off, or the pure fact that he had to work today had him in a bad mood, but he comes in with his scolding tone, 'why is the back door open?' I'm mostly confused by this question, and he repeats it. to which I just shrug. Then he goes off on an angry tangent on how it's 80 degrees outside which means the 'stageing' of the house won't work because it's now going to be unbearably hot . Then does this 'pulls me into hug', about to explain how he is doing this for both of us B.S. when it's really one of his needs to be in control issues that he needs to work on. So I pull away, because I 'Hate' these hugs. Because they always come after something that feels really condescending. and tell him "I don't want to be hugged after being yelled at"
Which he pulled away with a "fine", and got out his laptop and continued to work.
Part of the problem I've let him hug me like this before, because I didn't know what else to do. The other part of the problem is he really is in a bad mood because of work but I don't think he know how to deal with that because Work is out of his control, but the temperature of the house is something he feels he can control. I also don't think I did anything wrong, but now he's gonna be even more moody. So best thing I guess is Space?
I don't want it to sound like he's a jerk, because most of the time he's not, and I too have my faults. We are both Somewhere along the spectrum and still working on the communication with other humans.