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I just received my official diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorder, as well as an information pack including information about resources and groups in my area for autistic people. I don't have any friends and haven't had any since I left high school, even then I struggled socially, and I often feel very left out and lonely.
The idea of one of these social groups was exciting at first and I thought it would be a good opportunity to meet people and make friends.
However, that idea quickly became deflated when I realised that this would obviously involve socialising, something I cannot do. Ironically, the only way that I will become confident again with socialising is to practice it, but I'm in a position at the moment where I can't as it has just been too long since I did and I don't feel able to at all. Even thinking about it makes me very confused and overwhelmed. Most of these social groups meet once a week and go out to a place such as bowling, the cinema, a restaurant, etc.
So if I was to go, I would have to meet this group of people, who I've never met before, I have no idea of their ages, genders and how many there are, at this place, where I've never been before, and it would be a different place every week, and I would have to socialise with them.
I can't be the only autistic person to find this overwhelming, as the only reason I find this to be a problem is because I'm autistic. I can't deal with new situations or socialising so both at once is just impossible.
How do other autistic people possibly do this? It's a catch 22. I understand the people who are already going to these groups are probably socialising every day at school or work etc but how would I even think about socialising with others if I'm this out of practice?
I feel very hopeless. I want friends so desperately but I have no idea of how to start because I can't be in new situations, especially with other people.
The idea of one of these social groups was exciting at first and I thought it would be a good opportunity to meet people and make friends.
However, that idea quickly became deflated when I realised that this would obviously involve socialising, something I cannot do. Ironically, the only way that I will become confident again with socialising is to practice it, but I'm in a position at the moment where I can't as it has just been too long since I did and I don't feel able to at all. Even thinking about it makes me very confused and overwhelmed. Most of these social groups meet once a week and go out to a place such as bowling, the cinema, a restaurant, etc.
So if I was to go, I would have to meet this group of people, who I've never met before, I have no idea of their ages, genders and how many there are, at this place, where I've never been before, and it would be a different place every week, and I would have to socialise with them.
I can't be the only autistic person to find this overwhelming, as the only reason I find this to be a problem is because I'm autistic. I can't deal with new situations or socialising so both at once is just impossible.
How do other autistic people possibly do this? It's a catch 22. I understand the people who are already going to these groups are probably socialising every day at school or work etc but how would I even think about socialising with others if I'm this out of practice?
I feel very hopeless. I want friends so desperately but I have no idea of how to start because I can't be in new situations, especially with other people.