aspieandconfused_87
Active Member
Hello,
My name is Brent,
I am new to the forum, I am originally from Texas and have been living in Northern California for over 6 years now, so I live in Silicon Valley (yes the place around the show was based) and all these tech giant, the dating scene here is terrible, bad male to female ratio, a lot of career minded/focused people who are just looking for a quick shag or to go on none serious dates, frankly I have little interest in the things people are interested in around here and not really into sports, or bars, or hiking which is what the vast majority of people around here like to do.
I get around the nerdy/geeky crowed and I am usually a bit more at home as there is almost always someone interesting to talk to and it is much easier to find something to talk about, I hate small talk with a passion and not a fan of social events, especially large crowded loud events (oddly enough I can go to conventions just fine, but I think it is because I am focused on other things and don't really interact with people unless I have too).
I have been on an tried just about every dating app/site out there and got no where on any of them, I have gone on dates and sometimes even get about 2 dates in before the girl looses interest and either stops replying or tells me they are not interested, but I have yet to meet a girl who really excites me on any of these dates, and almost none of them do I connect with on any more then a superficial level, I almost always have to lead the conversation or the things they want to talk about I either have no input on or am not interested in, I often have a hard time keeping a conversation going in person, only in the rarest of situations have I met someone who I even wanted to continue a conversation with and those girls are usually not single and/or not available, I am starting to realize there may be a reason these girls are single in the first place, maybe other men feel the same way about the girls, or I just keep meeting the wrong women IDK.
I am lost and kind of over the whole dating thing, I recently started checking out Hinge, it's ok, I was talking to one girl but I don't really have anything in common with her and she doesn't speak the best English so there is somewhat or a language barrier between us, I have liked many other girls on there but so far no others have reciprocated, then again I don't have a lot going for me, besides being likely on the spectrum, and my limited interest, I don't have a very high level of education, my job isn't particularly exciting, I do not make a lot of money, I live with my brother, I am balding/bald, overweight, pale, somewhat hairy, have had limited life experience, I did not have the college experience so I have no feedback or input on that, and I am not a traveler and have not been to another country so I do not have that experience either, I don't like hiking or doing a lot of the things people around here like, so I don't know what to do, people say put your self out there, and go out and meet people, or try to start talking to people when you go do things you enjoy, well when I go do things I enjoy I am not going to meet people or have random conversations with strangers, I just want to go do what I wanted to do and that is all, if by some chance I met someone on a whim then cool but I am not going out of my way.
Anyways the main reason I was posting this was, has anyone in the California/Northern California area (if there are any on this board) found any good dating sites for people on the spectrum because every single one of the Autism focused sites I have signed up for or tried there is usually no one anywhere near me on the sites, and regular dating sites seem to be a waste of time all the women on there are basically clones of one another, have the same or similar pictures, seem to be into the same or similar things, and most are boring to talk to or I have little to nothing in common with.
Sorry for writing a book and ranting a bit,
Brent
My name is Brent,
I am new to the forum, I am originally from Texas and have been living in Northern California for over 6 years now, so I live in Silicon Valley (yes the place around the show was based) and all these tech giant, the dating scene here is terrible, bad male to female ratio, a lot of career minded/focused people who are just looking for a quick shag or to go on none serious dates, frankly I have little interest in the things people are interested in around here and not really into sports, or bars, or hiking which is what the vast majority of people around here like to do.
I get around the nerdy/geeky crowed and I am usually a bit more at home as there is almost always someone interesting to talk to and it is much easier to find something to talk about, I hate small talk with a passion and not a fan of social events, especially large crowded loud events (oddly enough I can go to conventions just fine, but I think it is because I am focused on other things and don't really interact with people unless I have too).
I have been on an tried just about every dating app/site out there and got no where on any of them, I have gone on dates and sometimes even get about 2 dates in before the girl looses interest and either stops replying or tells me they are not interested, but I have yet to meet a girl who really excites me on any of these dates, and almost none of them do I connect with on any more then a superficial level, I almost always have to lead the conversation or the things they want to talk about I either have no input on or am not interested in, I often have a hard time keeping a conversation going in person, only in the rarest of situations have I met someone who I even wanted to continue a conversation with and those girls are usually not single and/or not available, I am starting to realize there may be a reason these girls are single in the first place, maybe other men feel the same way about the girls, or I just keep meeting the wrong women IDK.
I am lost and kind of over the whole dating thing, I recently started checking out Hinge, it's ok, I was talking to one girl but I don't really have anything in common with her and she doesn't speak the best English so there is somewhat or a language barrier between us, I have liked many other girls on there but so far no others have reciprocated, then again I don't have a lot going for me, besides being likely on the spectrum, and my limited interest, I don't have a very high level of education, my job isn't particularly exciting, I do not make a lot of money, I live with my brother, I am balding/bald, overweight, pale, somewhat hairy, have had limited life experience, I did not have the college experience so I have no feedback or input on that, and I am not a traveler and have not been to another country so I do not have that experience either, I don't like hiking or doing a lot of the things people around here like, so I don't know what to do, people say put your self out there, and go out and meet people, or try to start talking to people when you go do things you enjoy, well when I go do things I enjoy I am not going to meet people or have random conversations with strangers, I just want to go do what I wanted to do and that is all, if by some chance I met someone on a whim then cool but I am not going out of my way.
Anyways the main reason I was posting this was, has anyone in the California/Northern California area (if there are any on this board) found any good dating sites for people on the spectrum because every single one of the Autism focused sites I have signed up for or tried there is usually no one anywhere near me on the sites, and regular dating sites seem to be a waste of time all the women on there are basically clones of one another, have the same or similar pictures, seem to be into the same or similar things, and most are boring to talk to or I have little to nothing in common with.
Sorry for writing a book and ranting a bit,
Brent