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Should I re add?

Discussion in 'Friends, Family & Social Skills' started by SunnyDay16, Nov 27, 2017.

  1. SunnyDay16

    SunnyDay16 Well-Known Member

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    Yesterday a guy and I were talking in a chatroom. He was complimenting me lots and saying stuff like, "My wish is to make you smile." He then wanted us to cam and said that we could be best friends. I should be flattered by this, but I couldn't help but feel creeped out since I just met the guy and he was already being really...mushy I guess is the word. I removed him from skype since I just had bad gut feelings about this and didn't really want to pursue a friendship with him. I feel like a jerk since I did tell him I could cam today, but I was only really doing that to be nice, not because I really wanted to. He was a nice guy and all but I just didn't feel right about it.

    Am I just overthinking this all too much?
     
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  2. kay

    kay Well-Known Member

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    I think you did the right thing.
     
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  3. Gritches

    Gritches The Happy Dog V.I.P Member

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    Trust your gut, I think you made the right call
     
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  4. OrSomething

    OrSomething Champion Lurker

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    It's okay to remove yourself from social situations you don't feel comfortable with.
     
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  5. Lady Penelope

    Lady Penelope Well-Known Member

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    I too struggle with boundaries but I'm learning to trust my gut.
    Do not re-add. Trust your instincts. You know you are right.

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  6. nowwhat

    nowwhat Well-Known Member

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    I got creeped out just reading about it. Going with your gut was the right call. Being too aggressive too quickly without waiting for signs and permission from you to move things ahead is a very troubling behavior.
     
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    the_tortoise Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Trust your instincts.
     
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  8. Bolletje

    Bolletje Potato chip wizard V.I.P Member

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    Incredibly creepy behavior. You made the right call. As a general rule I'd say anyone that's overly friendly or pushy about camming within a day of "meeting" you online should probably be avoided.
     
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  9. WittyAspie

    WittyAspie The One And Only V.I.P Member

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    I will add to the string of concordance and say to stay away from him.
     
  10. Suzanne

    Suzanne Well-Known Member

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    Absolutely right thing to do. Because online, many feel a sense of unreality and thus, there are no bounderies, which are dangerous.
     
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  11. ZebraAspie

    ZebraAspie Well-Known Member

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    I think you did right. The guy sounds like a creep and I just wouldn't get involved.
     
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    A large number of people in online chat rooms aren't what they appear to be and a few may even be dangerous, it's a difficult place to meet genuine people and you are right to use caution. He may or may not be reasonable, but he does sound pushy and overconfident which isn't a good sign, for all you know he could have numerous women on the go at once where he pretends to every single one that they're special and the only one, or worse he could be older than he first portrays and someone who targets who he sees as vulnerable teenagers. I could of course be totally wrong about him and I maybe wrongfully condemning a really nice genuine person, but you do have to be extremely careful as it's often very difficult to tell.
     
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  13. Tobs

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    In my online experience, genuine people tend to be more cautious, like yourself. Someone being nice on the surface doesn't mean they have your best interests at heart. And online, it's very easy to be nice.
     
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