Pariah Dog
Well-Known Member
I have gone out with a lady a few times but now haven't seen her in more than 2 weeks. A fair bit of time passed between each time we had seen each other. The last time went fairly well. We were walking back to out cars and when it came to the split direction point she chose to take a bit of a longer route seeming to hold my hand a bit longer. It ended with a hug goodbye and the usual mutual "let me know you got home safe."
The week after we didn't see each other. Her car was broke and said she doesn't want to go out until it's fixed. I said I can pick you up but she said "No, I'd feel bad about it." We talked by text over a few days. After a week her car was apparently not fixed yet. I was noticing that whenever we converse lately over text it is always me who initiates it. I thought I would put it to the test and see if or when she contacts me again. Its been 6 days and... nothing. I figure I take that to mean "not interested, and whatever this may have been has run it's course." I am thinking I have lost points by moving too slowly.
But maybe I'm wrong. She is a highly independent sort of person. Like myself takes a pretty old fashion approach to dating. She made it clear the first night that she is not interested in just "hooking up" and seemed relieved I was on the same page. She is also kind of nerdy and different in that sort of way.
I intend to make contact once more I think. Giving the benefit of the doubt. Maybe this lack of contact is her independence and not having a strong need for another person. Maybe there is some angle I can't comprehend due to social understanding as an aspie. In one way I feel like I may be breaking "the rules" and my own rule by folding and making the next first contact. On the other hand if I'm unknowingly in a "Mexican standoff" where each is expecting the other to make the next move, It would be silly to let something that might be a good thing fade away.
And insight to the matter?
The week after we didn't see each other. Her car was broke and said she doesn't want to go out until it's fixed. I said I can pick you up but she said "No, I'd feel bad about it." We talked by text over a few days. After a week her car was apparently not fixed yet. I was noticing that whenever we converse lately over text it is always me who initiates it. I thought I would put it to the test and see if or when she contacts me again. Its been 6 days and... nothing. I figure I take that to mean "not interested, and whatever this may have been has run it's course." I am thinking I have lost points by moving too slowly.
But maybe I'm wrong. She is a highly independent sort of person. Like myself takes a pretty old fashion approach to dating. She made it clear the first night that she is not interested in just "hooking up" and seemed relieved I was on the same page. She is also kind of nerdy and different in that sort of way.
I intend to make contact once more I think. Giving the benefit of the doubt. Maybe this lack of contact is her independence and not having a strong need for another person. Maybe there is some angle I can't comprehend due to social understanding as an aspie. In one way I feel like I may be breaking "the rules" and my own rule by folding and making the next first contact. On the other hand if I'm unknowingly in a "Mexican standoff" where each is expecting the other to make the next move, It would be silly to let something that might be a good thing fade away.
And insight to the matter?