Forget hierarchy & all that nonsense.
To anyone who is so immature as to go to the newspapers, cheapening the struggle of those who have real discrimination to work against, and complain that they were ejected from a restaurant for their own slovenly habits, I say go and grow the hell up.
Long live dress codes, standards, and other established rules of propriety. They're the Aspies' last chance: finally a societal code that doesn't only exist in an NT's imagination.
Dress codes often have literally nothing to do with "slovenly habits" though. And indeed often are really just an imaginary bit of silliness.
I wouldnt be able to get into most places that want some bloody stupid specific attire, myself. Am I "slovenly"? Unclean? Ye gods, no. Chances are, I could teach the freaking restaurant how to be REALLY clean. As an absolute germophobe, I know far more than most about the subject. I dont do shoddy, germy stuff. Nor do I wear a bunch of ratty crap that looks like it'll fall apart at the seams any minute. I'm far too paranoid and careful to do either.
So what, then?
Two words: sensory issues. When wearing "long pants", it is *always* sweatpants for me. It's the one and only thing I can tolerate. Jeans? No... I will freaking fight you to the death if you try to put jeans on me. Same with things like those awful "Dockers" pants... if I had nightmares, half of them would be about when I used to have to wear those. Ugh. Ugh! And when wearing shorts, it's always... er... I dont know what you'd call them. I think some might know them as "track shorts". I dont know. I've got like 5 pairs of identical ones for... some reason.
Shirts? T-shirts only, and I aint going to go to some damn fancy store because you dont like that my shirt has a logo or something on it. It's just a freaking shirt, and it's clean.
And I dont do buttons or snaps or zippers... ever. No exceptions. If you want me to go into a berserk rage, try and force me to wear something that has even one of those. I guarantee you, the rest of your day will be a bad one if you try that, whoever you might be at the time (was usually my parents, hah).
I also cant wear weird fancy shoes either. That one's not a sensory issue: it's my back/nerve/tendon issues. I need proper foot support, not weird dress-up crap.
These rules do not change. As many on the spectrum could easily explain. We dont dictate these rules: they simply are.
To be honest, it's one of the reasons why I usually refuse to go anywhere with anyone. I dont care that Bob over there, running things, is so shallow that he's bothered I'm wearing sweatpants... I aint changing (and causing all of my sensory issues to flare up) just to please him. So, I just wont go with you at all. It's that sort of reasoning. Though, I also dont want to be forced to pretend to be something that I'm not.
My parents used to force me to wear stupid things at events like family gatherings, and it was nothing but, well, misery, all around. Eventually they realized how dumb this was, and stopped even so much as asking me to do it. Interestingly, the family events did not burst into flames or get attacked by rabid badger armies due to my lack of "proper" attire, proving that it was all unnecessary silliness to begin with.
I see dress codes as just yet another way that the herd or hivemind tries to get you to join it. Because that's really the psychology behind it. You're either one of us... or you're out the door. And if you're not one of us, we all get to feel superior to you, because that makes bloody sense.
That's all it is, and that's all it ever will be.
And yes I know I seem a bit vitriolic about this subject, I apologize for that. I put up with this nonsense for far too many years and now have an absolute blazing hatred for the very concept.