Separation Anxiety

[Joshua the Writer]

Whenever I'm in my house by myself, or otherwise completely alone by myself for longer period of times and not knowing where I anybody I know is at or where they are doing, I seem to get very anxious after a while. I'd say about an hour.

I believe I might actually have separation anxiety issues. I also get worried easily. I'd like to see if you guys can help me.

Any suggestions on how I can manage my anxiety better?

 

[Catherine Crowne]

Whenever I'm in my house by myself, or otherwise completely alone by myself for longer period of times and not knowing where I anybody I know is at or where they are doing, I seem to get very anxious after a while. I'd say about an hour.

I believe I might actually have separation anxiety issues. I also get worried easily. I'd like to see if you guys can help me.

Any suggestions on how I can manage my anxiety better?

Hi. I believe I have that same issue. My mom would recall how I would get so upset when she was out of my sight. Hysterical.
I know I have abandonment issues.
Do you?
Have you thought about that?
If your parents did not meet your emotional needs. Then most likely you have abandonment issues.
It is an awful feeling.
I go to therapy for many issues.
But, I know it is important to learn how to “self soothe”
When you are by yourself what type of activities do you do?
Make sure you find things that really interest you.
Also, eastern philosophy recommendes “sitting with your feelings” understanding they won’t kill you.
Find music you love.
Maybe you may need a medication that can help with anxiety. Or do the natural approach. A specific diet and exercise.
When you start to learn about what you need, you can find what works best for you. And you’ll notice you have good days and not so good days.
Here’s a big hug.

 

[Joshua the Writer]

Hi. I believe I have that same issue. My mom would recall how I would get so upset when she was out of my sight. Hysterical.
I know I have abandonment issues.
Do you?
Have you thought about that?
If your parents did not meet your emotional needs. Then most likely you have abandonment issues.
It is an awful feeling.
I go to therapy for many issues.
But, I know it is important to learn how to “self soothe”
When you are by yourself what type of activities do you do?
Make sure you find things that really interest you.
Also, eastern philosophy recommendes “sitting with your feelings” understanding they won’t kill you.
Find music you love.
Maybe you may need a medication that can help with anxiety. Or do the natural approach. A specific diet and exercise.
When you start to learn about what you need, you can find what works best for you. And you’ll notice you have good days and not so good days.
Here’s a big hug.

No, my parents give me lots of affection. Never ignored me in my life unless I was arguing with them. Also, thanks for the hug!

 

[Catherine Crowne]

Well, try the self soothing.
And doing things that you can “get into”.
With practice, you will find your time alone feeling happy and safe can expand. And eventually you can hang all day with just you. Cool.

 

[Fino]

It could just be general anxiety manifesting in this way. I often worry whoever isn't there has died. It's gotten much better with the famous
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Pentin!

I should be on a higher dose.

Sorry, I don't think I really have advice. I'm just covering it with medication. Ask yourself why you feel this way?

What is it that you worry about? Them dying?

 

[Joshua the Writer]

It could just be general anxiety manifesting in this way. I often worry whoever isn't there has died. It's gotten much better with the famous
G
a
b
a
Pentin!

I should be on a higher dose.

Sorry, I don't think I really have advice. I'm just covering it with medication. Ask yourself why you feel this way?

What is it that you worry about? Them dying?

Yeah. That's a reason I'm worried. Plus, due to things that happened during 1st grade all the way up to 8th, I feel like they just won't come back. I don't want to get much in to it. Let's just say that elementary and middle school kids can be JERKS!

 

[Fino]

I worry about that, as well. Maybe think of all the times they did come back and explain to yourself that it's more likely they will. It doesn't work for me, but who knows!

 

[guitarandtattoos]

Whenever I'm in my house by myself, or otherwise completely alone by myself for longer period of times and not knowing where I anybody I know is at or where they are doing, I seem to get very anxious after a while. I'd say about an hour.

I believe I might actually have separation anxiety issues. I also get worried easily. I'd like to see if you guys can help me.

Any suggestions on how I can manage my anxiety better?

@Joshua Aaron I get where you're coming from. I'm pretty much home alone and in complete isolation everyday. Do you have anyone that you can chat with on the phone? Do you have a PC or any gaming systems that you can interact with others or a personal hobby you can distract your self. Not sure how stuck you are but find a way to make your self busy. If what you're doing isn't helping try something else you might feel is positive or will make you happy. Sometimes i play Just Dance even though I "Just Suck" and feel and look dumb doing it.. LOL

 

[SusanLR]

I've had this problem all my life.
Starting when I had to begin school. I had never been alone or with a sitter.
It was always my parents or grandmother.
I didn't have the want to socialise either as a child. Never liked company in the house and had
selective mutism until school age.

That feeling of anxiety being alone at home or going out on my own into the world never left.
I've lived with it all of my life so when I lost those I was used to living with what a mess.
I've had panic attacks since age 13 too.
I think this is what made my seperation anxiety disorder even worse.
Fear of having an attack alone or out in public or driving. Leads to agoraphobia.

I've been in therapy since my last close relative died six years ago.
Still don't live alone. Moved in with someone I knew and have my own section of the house.
I still feel lost, alone, and depressed without the ones I've been with all my life.
It isn't easy but, it's getting a little easier. It will never be the same though, I know that.
I was forced into driving alone and being home alone and I've gotten to the point I can now
tolerate it.

 

[Reirei]

It could just be general anxiety manifesting in this way. I often worry whoever isn't there has died. It's gotten much better with the famous
G
a
b
a
Pentin!

I should be on a higher dose.

Sorry, I don't think I really have advice. I'm just covering it with medication. Ask yourself why you feel this way?

What is it that you worry about? Them dying?

I worry about this too and I also worry about if they will try and commit suicide if they tell me they love me.

I really like gabapentin but I wasn't on it while I was pregnant and breastfeeding (current).

Anyway, I think that reminding yourself of all the times that they came back is good but also distracting yourself (as much as you can) with your hobby.

 

[some/aspies/need/hugs/13]

I have found one thing that helps me and it depends on where you live but for me when I feel lonely I go ride my bicycle to one of the laundry list of local places and hangout a while, also sometimes I will ride my bike and find the local bike patrol officers and race them.

 

[Suzanne]

How I learned to manage it, was thinking out a statagy for what would happen if I was on my own and that helped a lot to reduce separation anxiety.

I would be petrified if my husband wanted to just pop out briefly and worse still, he had a habit of doing this and not letting me know what went on, so many times, I have been an emotional mess, but once I discovered what I could do in the event of him not returning home, that lessoned greatly.

Also, due to my faith, I do know that I can call anyone close by and I would get the help.

So, it went from: I NEED my husband; to I WANT my husband around.