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seeking counselling help please

Tanyax

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I’m sorry but I really need to get some help. For the first time in my life I’ve accepted that I need to talk to someone. I’m 41 and I am truly desperate. Does anyone know if there’s anywhere I can turn to? I need proper counselling and I can’t afford to pay for it. I need to take back my life and that means scraping back a lot of years of things I’ve tried to ignore but know I finally accept that I have to do it if I want to move forward which I do. I’m ready but I need to find the help I need. I’m scared but now I need to know where to turn. Can anyone help me. Please?
 
If you live in the USA, you could try calling your
local Community Mental Health. Or even the
Health Department or local social services, for
referrals.
 
There are many pro bono links. Some churches can link you to someone. Often crisis hot lines can refer you to therapists that you can afford or find you therapists if you do not have any. Crisis hotline can be of help in certain cases. You do not always need to call them only if you are suicidal.
 
If you live in the USA, you could try calling your
local Community Mental Health. Or even the
Health Department or local social services, for
referrals.
I like in the uk and I’ve looked. I can’t seem to find any free help
 
There are many pro bono links. Some churches can link you to someone. Often crisis hot lines can refer you to therapists that you can afford or find you therapists if you do not have any. Crisis hotline can be of help in certain cases. You do not always need to call them only if you are suicidal.
I’m not a Christian and I literally cannot afford anything right now. I just know that in order to get better I need help to start stripping back how the hell I got here because if I don’t I’ll never get better. I know that now. I just don’t know how to do it. I’m at a very very low ebb and any help would be so much appreciated. I literally cannot move forward with my life without some help.
 
I like in the uk and I’ve looked. I can’t seem to find any free help

Maybe you should ask one of your previous psychiatrists.
(for help finding care.)

Or call your general medical practitioner, for referrals.

A church does not necessarily require that you be "a Christian"
in order for them to help you find assistance that you need.

Have you, in fact, talked to any social workers?
They might be able to suggest sources.
 
I have had some awful experiences with psychiatrists. I only want online help now. It’s humiliating and makes me feel worse. I can’t put myself through it again. I just can’t.
 
They don’t care. They don’t want to help. They just want to get rid of you. I need a different kind of help. Honestly, they make me feel worse. Like I’m not human. Worth nothing. It’s awful. I can’t go down that road again. I need to get better with someone that actually cares.
 
Since you're in the UK Tanya - give MIND a try. They don't specialise in autism but they are a charity and they can help with anxiety, depression and more. I saw them myself some years ago when I was in a pretty dire situation and they helped me.
I don't know if they do online counselling yet but they certainly do face to face. Worth giving them a call.

Home | Mind, the mental health charity - help for mental health problems
 
I’m sorry but I really need to get some help. For the first time in my life I’ve accepted that I need to talk to someone. I’m 41 and I am truly desperate. Does anyone know if there’s anywhere I can turn to? I need proper counselling and I can’t afford to pay for it. I need to take back my life and that means scraping back a lot of years of things I’ve tried to ignore but know I finally accept that I have to do it if I want to move forward which I do. I’m ready but I need to find the help I need. I’m scared but now I need to know where to turn. Can anyone help me. Please?
Tanya. I'm glad to hear from you again, it's been a while. I kind of understand where you are - the desperation and feeling completely lost and I don't think it's advice you are looking for, but rather a miracle to just make things change. Check out the site for the place Autistamatic mentioned and see if there's anywhere you can go from there.
 
Free mental health services may be (is probably) available if you qualify income wise. If you are serious about turning things around get busy and do your research, phone calls, etc, and get the help you need.
 
I need to talk to someone

It is especially hard when you have never really done this before. Trying to open up and share pain and struggles puts us in a very vulnerable situation. Feeling vulnerable is scary and overwhelming. I think feelings for autistics are just scary and overwhelming anyway. It is so much easier to put them aside and get on with our life... until we come to that place where we can no longer put them aside. We find we have a huge room with pain and feelings leaking out all over the place and they must be dealt with.

You are not alone in this. I live in the United States so I am unfamiliar with UK. I do want to encourage you to follow up on the referral suggestions you have received in here. Even if they cannot help you, perhaps they can direct you to someone who can. Please keep us posted.
 
You don't have to plead poverty to get free healthcare in the UK - it is a fundamental right of every citizen. The only problem right now is that thanks to unnecessary cut backs, certain areas of the NHS are underfunded so there can be long waiting lists. Mental health, particularly counselling is one of those areas badly hit unfortunately.
MIND would be the best bet I can think of right now but it might be worth getting in touch with the National Autistic Society to see if they can offer any help or advice.

Autism support - leading UK charity - National Autistic Society
 
Thank you guys. I’m going to try MIND. I have to say that I’m really not feeling very good. All my relationships are falling apart and I have so very much to do to even stand a chance to get better. So very much. It’s daunting. I don’t know where to start. I’m actually embarrassed of myself.

When I was younger, I was so strong and so proud. I have just become so low, brought down to such a different level that I never thought was possible for me. You have to walk a mile in another mans shoes.

Well, I’ve walked. I don’t like it. I’ve been brought down more pegs than I care to think about. I want it to make me a better person because there’s no doubt it would, but I’m ready for it to mold me and be an experience not destroy me anymore. Because it is and it has. Nearly 8 years now. It’s taken everything from me. It breaks me every day. I’ve had enough.

I think I’ve always thought asking for help was a sign of weakness maybe. But now I wish to god I’d had help earlier and now I don’t know how to get it. If I had of had it I might not be where I am now.

Thank you for all your love and support. I really do feel it and it means so much x
 
Not seeking help soon enough (or at all) is not unusual amongst us. We can be very self reliant until we realise we either seek help or go under.
I can't speak for the rest of the world, but there are obviously people in this community who care, so use it. At a time like this you need reassurance and people to bounce off and we can help provide that, along with advice if you want it.
Stay in touch Tanya :)
 

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